I recently just went through a break-up with my girlfriend (who is 20 years old) of almost 3 and a half years. However, I feel greatly unsettled as to why this break-up even happened. Let me explain. This past December my girlfriend said that she felt that she was being "pressured" to get married, and that she had just suppressed the pressure. Obviously, since we had been dating for so long marriage was now on the table. But, she said she felt pressured and expected by everyone to get married... and that because of this, she felt she needed to break up with me. But at the same time, she told me that it shouldn't matter that she felt pressured, because she knew that she truly loved me and cared for me. So over a few weeks we prayed together and talked a lot with each other, and eventually that feeling went away. However, at the beginning of June this year that same feeling came back, where she told me that she felt "uncertain," "scared," and afraid that she might have to break up with me. However, we both talked it over and she felt relieved and confident when she talked to me. But, this time that feeling didn't fade away... and about 5 weeks ago she decided that she needed to break up with me. However, I felt unsatisfied as to why she broke up with me. And I remembered that my girlfriend has visited a friend the day before she broke up with me in order to explain what was going on in her mind and get reassurance that she was doing the right thing. So I contacted this friend (she's my friend as well, and wanted to help me figure out what was happening) and asked her about the situation. This is what she told me: My girlfriend said that she had grown up and realized that she needed to figure out her life. She had no idea what she wanted to do with her life, what she wanted to be, etc... and felt pressured by everyone's expectation for her to get married. She felt that since she had no idea what to do with her life, that she was therefore not ready nor prepared to deal with something like marriage yet. But at the same time she felt like everyone was expecting her to get married and felt pressured. My girlfriend felt "stuck," that this was it: that she would graduate, get married, and then never have the opportunity to figure out her life and what she wants. But at the same time my girlfriend DID love me, and wanted to spend her future with me. And so she tried to stay with me... but in the end all of that pressure got to her and gave her too much stress. She was constantly struggling in her mind since she did love me, and wanted to be with me... but knew that she was not ready for marriage yet since she needed to figure out her own life. And this is the part that confuses me. Essentially, this break up had nothing to do with our relationship. My girlfriend loved me, was happy to be with me, wanted to marry me, and thought we were a great couple! But for the past few months she was no longer happy since she felt "trapped" into doing something she wasn't prepared for. That she was not happy with who she was, and she needed space and time in order to figure that out before she committed her life to someone else. But, since we were in a relationship she had to break up with me to relieve that constant pressure of being expected to get married. She is trying to set her own expectations for her life. So it wasn't that being with ME was what caused her to break up, but that being in a relationship right now was giving her stress, and she felt pressured to get married before she had figured out her own life for herself. But, I don't really know where to go from here. This break up had nothing to do with our relationship... and my girlfriend said to our friend that she still loves me. But I guess this is something she had to do in order to figure out her life, and she wasn't able to do that while being with me since she felt that expectation of marriage. And we had a good relationship... we were both happy together, we shared similar values and beliefs. Our personalities matched well, and be both loved each other and wanted to marry each other. And then this happens. I have been praying non-stop since this happened... and I just can't find any peace about this situation. Can anyone help me out?