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Are you a believer but you spouse of boyfriend isnt?? read this.

Discussion in 'Marriage and Relationships' started by JesusReignsForever, May 25, 2007.

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  1. Are you a believer but you spouse of boyfriend isnt?? read this.

    You are UNEQUALLY YOKED!! Fighting alot? Cant decide? What about the children? What faith is right? HELP HELP HELP!!! Here is what the bible says about being unqually yoked.

    2 Corinthians 6:14
    Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

    Light and Darkness cant clash together...either it is day or it is night. The same with believers and unbeliever... either you accept Jesus or you dont. No wonder there are so many broken marriages...so many broken families. The bible clearly speaks againts being unqually yoked so why do people do it? I couldnt tell you.

    Well some might say "I am in LOVE"!! Let me tell you today do not be decieved there is not greater love that the love of Jesus!​

    John 15:13
    Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.

    I am sorry honey if you believe that man or boy you are with loves you better or more than Jesus Christ you are decieved. Jesus was the ULTIMATE SCARAFICE for us all. The bible tells us..

    1 Peter 2:21-23
    21For even hereunto were ye called: because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that ye should follow his steps:

    22Who did no sin, neither was guile found in his mouth:
    23Who, when he was reviled, reviled not again; when he suffered, he threatened not; but committed himself to him that judgeth righteously:

    He never spoke a mummbling word and yet they hated him! WOW. Jesus is the best lover choose to love him today! Pray for the spouse of boyfriend who is not a believe Jesus can turn it all around!

    James 5:16
    Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much
     
  2. It is best NOT to date someone who is not a believer in the first place!


    Quote~JesusReignsForever
    "I am sorry honey if you believe that man or boy you are with loves you better or more than Jesus Christ you are decieved. Jesus was the ULTIMATE SCARAFICE for us all. The bible tells us.."


    You better hope the one you are with DOES love Christ more than YOU!

    Blessings to all~
     
  3. Amen to the truth!
     
  4. Well to be honest, i for one have because i thought maybe i could change that because of their confusion. In turn it test my faith more than anything i have gone through. It didn't work out in the end.
     
  5. *Throws a punch* YES! God knows what's best for me. If I do get married it will be to a man who loves Jesus just as much as I do. :)

    ~I'll take em on!~
     
  6. You also gotta realize that if someone wants to date you and you insist that you will not marry or date a non-believer, that could impact them for the better.
     
  7. Ok may i present you with a common occurance?

    What if persay someone only told you that they were a follower, and did things only for you and not for them or Christ?

    I guess im asking what if they just manipulated their way? and The Lord was just testing your faith and patience.
     
  8. As a reminder for everyone: This is specifically covered in detail in Paul's letter in 1 Corinthians 7 (NLT) and especially 1 Corinthians 7:12-16 (NLT):

    "12 Now, I will speak to the rest of you, though I do not have a direct command from the Lord. If a Christian man has a wife who is an unbeliever and she is willing to continue living with him, he must not leave her. 13 And if a Christian woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he is willing to continue living with her, she must not leave him. 14 For the Christian wife brings holiness to her marriage, and the Christian husband brings holiness to his marriage. Otherwise, your children would not have a godly influence, but now they are set apart for him. 15 (But if the husband or wife who isn't a Christian insists on leaving, let them go. In such cases the Christian husband or wife is not required to stay with them, for God wants his children to live in peace.) 16 You wives must remember that your husbands might be converted because of you. And you husbands must remember that your wives might be converted because of you."


    Read all of Chapter 7 over again and then verses 12 to 16 again as well - ESPECIALLY verse 16, because if an opportunity to assist a partner or spouse to find the Word is wasted, then Paul's personal advice means nothing. Paul was avery gifted Apostle and he had discernment to a very high level. His instructions are based upon the general teachings of Christ as applied to specific situations by way of logical thinking and what was right. His advice here in chapter 7 is of utmost importance and we should consider his words carefully.
     
  9. quote=Pastor Gary
    "12 Now, I will speak to the rest of you, though I do not have a direct command from the Lord. If a Christian man has a wife who is an unbeliever and she is willing to continue living with him, he must not leave her. 13 And if a Christian woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he is willing to continue living with her, she must not leave him. 14 For the Christian wife brings holiness to her marriage, and the Christian husband brings holiness to his marriage. Otherwise, your children would not have a godly influence, but now they are set apart for him. 15 (But if the husband or wife who isn't a Christian insists on leaving, let them go. In such cases the Christian husband or wife is not required to stay with them, for God wants his children to live in peace.) 16 You wives must remember that your husbands might be converted because of you. And you husbands must remember that your wives might be converted because of you."

    I thought adultery was the only Biblical grounds for divorce~

    Or does this mean let the unbeliving spouse leave, but you don't divorce?
    Hmmm.....
     
  10. Hi Violet!

    No! To the best of my understanding, it does not mean let them go but don't divorce them! If an unbelieving wife or husband wants to end the marriage, it is not the responsibility of the believing spouse therefore, not divorcing them would only add to the the problem. The unbelieveing spose would probably enter into a relationship with someone else, so by not divorcing them, the believing spouse would be an unwilling party to adultery. My take on it, anyway...

    Laura:)
     
  11. jesus does touch on the subject about moses gave some laws because peoples hearts were hard at that time,or something like that.
     
  12. I have yet to find a good, Christian girl who loves God, but doesn't think all men are evil. It seems like the morally deficient girls are the only ones who will even give me a shot at knowing them.
     
  13. I will second that
     
  14. My wife and I are so different. She does not fit in to the typical Preachers wife. She hates it actually. She has been saved and baptized but she’s just not doing Christianity like I do or preach it. It is really strenuous on the marriage at times but we are devoted to each other for life.

    :israel:
     
  15. NoDoubt and BlueMark, there are so many good, Christian girls out there but they behave differently than girls of the world.
    A true Godly girl is less forward and bold than worldly girls.
    She may even come across as snobbish but don't be fooled because most of the time that is just shyness and timidity.

    Also, I hate to say this but it is not always easy for girls to trust guys.
    Prove yourself a genuine Christian and friend first~
     

  16. That's because for the most part they are :rolleyes:
    A man will walk by 5 or 10 decent women to make contact with one who is attractive in some way.

    Guys want to be freinds with the popular girls and the popular girls are those who (as you put) it are moraly deficient.

    Sincerely
    Cliff
     
  17. Normally i would agree, but for me i like to stop at everyone inbetween to get to know each one as a friend before moving forward to the "attractive one".

    God has i think blessed me with the knowledge that its whats on the inside. I have dated all sorts of women. I just like personallity and what their eyes say.

    Violet, i always try to prove myself as both before hand. Friendships are more important to me.
     
  18. Less bold and less forward...I disagree.. There are plenty of good christians ladies out there who have a voice...I just think they are looking for the Pretty One.
     
  19. I have dated both the Christian and the non-Christian single woman. I'll tell you a truth that will freak many people out.

    The non-Christian single women treated me a whole lot better.

    They accepted me for who I was. They encouraged me in my career path. They were more humble and greatful when I bought them a little something special. They never complained that I did not make enough money. They never tried to 'usurp' the male role in the relationship. They did not try to change and mold me into something else that was not me.

    However, of the two that I dated, both of them got to the point of the girl wanting to take the relationship and trying to initiate the relationship to the sexual intercourse realm to which I had to be firm and tell them 'NO" which also caused the end of those relationships.

    The christian women. I was never good nor 'spiritual' enough for them. They always tried to get me to forsake my technical related career for a career in sales/marketing/business/finance (it sounded more pristine). I never made enough money for them. Because I loved working with computers and repaired my friends computer many times made me a 'suspect' of one who must dabble in internet pornography at 3 AM 'doing the M' while thinking about them. They wanted to dominate the relationship and tell me what to do, what kind of clothes to wear, what Christian authors I should be reading and what kind of music that better be in my CD player and to discard my best friends because they were not 'spiritual' enough for them even though they are some of the most solid believers I ever met. To them, I was 'guilty' and 'not able to be trusted' simply because I am a man and they bought the common Christian mentality of Christian man as dirtbag and Christian woman as perfected saint.

    I couldn't meet their 'expectations' that felt more like 'bondage and stronghold' than any bad habit and I learned later on that God did not want me to exceed their expectations. God just wanted me to lean on Him, take up my cross, and crucify that flesh daily and transform myself by the renewing of the mind.

    I know better, and that is why I want and desire the Godly Christian wife who loves me as I am.
     
  20. You said it alot better than i ever could have!
     
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