I was curious what is a general reality that other Christian wives experience here, in certain areas. If you take it, I sure would appreciate seeing I am or I am not experiencing out of the norm experiences, that are generally true that God has to take care of. On a scale from 1 - 10. 1 being not at all and 10 being extremely so. If I was to take a poll, what would the response be? 1. Do you trust your husband to tell you the truth? 2. Does your husband make fun of you, either privately, or to others? 3. Does your husband take others' sides (on a regular basis) against you? 4. Does you husband defend you - does he have your back? 5. Does your husband allow you to take the blame for his wrongs? 6. Does your husband try to live out at home what he is in public? 7. Does your husband show sorrow when he has hurt or mistreated you? 8. Does you husband try to make things right when he knows he's disrespected you? Sarah in the Bible "did what was right" when she was afraid, and submitted to ther husband. The Bible tells all men not to be harsh with their wives. I want to see if harshness, and mistreatment/unkindness is the universal norm, or not, for even Christian men. This is not a rant, or an invitation to men-bash. I'm just curious if it is in the male psyche to do certain things that seem extreme to the rest of us, and to know whether to worry about these things - or not. Is this something God has to work out of all men, and what should wives do when mistreated - scripturally? Should we let ourselves be a doormat, submit? Doesn't that only ask for more mistreatment - if the fella is a bit of a bully, operating with no conscience? Do we separate and opt for temporary change that goes back to the way it was because the heart of the man is still wrong?