A Christian rock band, and friendship. Hi everyone, please bear with me. Ever since about a year ago, my best friend and I always wanted to start a Christian rock band. This year we met a few new people and found out that they could play the instruments that we needed. (Bass guitar and drums.) So we started a Christian rock band about 2 months ago. Well, my best friend plays the guitar and I play electric violin. Then comes the problem of, who is going to be our singer? We found another close friend who can sing really well and he came to practice one day. We didn't really let him sing that day, it was just letting him come and see how things work there. Three days later, our new singer decided to suddenly quit the band. I asked him why, and he said, "Well, I don't like the idea of being in a Christian band." A few days later, he decided that he wanted to rejoin. I asked him if he thought that he could live a Christian lifestyle. He asked me if he would be allowed to cuss and I told him no, that was part of it. He told me other reasons, too. He told me that he would not be able to live a Christian life style and that he wasn't even going to try. The next day, I told our drum player and he accused me of judging our singer. I told him, I am not judging him, he TOLD me that he couldn't have the lifestyle. I know that part of being in a Christian band is having a Christian lifestyle!!!!! Do you guys think I am right? What am I supposed to do? Now the old singer AND the drum player are mad at me! ------------------------------------------------- [[You can stop reading here if you would like, I am about to go on to my next problem.]] Our guitar player (my best friend)'s dad is one of the pastors at a local church. He told us that if we could learn 2 of our own songs, we could open up for another band at a concert in 3 weeks. So at practice, we learned a song. Our practice went really well. Until the next day... Our drum player asked me if I thought that we would be able to do it. I told him I thought we could do whatever we set our minds to. He told me that he doesn't think we can do it. He keeps making up all kinds of excuses not to play at the show. First, he said "Well, I don't have a whole set of drums." So, we found a new whole set for him. We borrowed them from someone. Then he said, "Well, we don't have a singer." Then the whole band decided that I would sing, while I am not playing the violin. He continues to make up excuses. How can I prove to him that we can do this if we think we can?