Adult A.D.D.

violet · 03-29-2008, 03:04 AM

Attention Deficit Disorder

It is something I have lived with all my life and in the past 4-5 years I have suffered a great deal of guilt and shame over it.

Does anyone else here suffer with A.D.D.?

SweetSurrender · 03-29-2008, 03:09 AM

Violet, why would you feel guilt and shame over having ADD? My husband has it and has learned to compensate for it. It seems so many kids are diagnosed with it today. But I don't see any shame in it. Bonnie

violet · 03-29-2008, 03:21 AM

Thank you, Bonnie for your kind words.
As I have gotten older it has become worse.
My Dr. told me my thyroid disorder makes my A.D.D. 10 times worse.

Many people with ADD suffer depression.
I have had a battle with depression for a long time.

Why do I feel guilt and shame?
Because my family has suffered for my failures.
I cannot put my thoughts in order.
It's as though they swim around inside my head.
My way of dealing with the confusion is to go on Shut Down mode.

I fear failure so much that I give up.
It's very scary to feel that everything you do is wrong.
Whether it's true or not, it's how I feel.

All my relationships have suffered from it and the problems is, no one really understands unless they have it.
Trying to explain it to my family is like me talking Greek.
Then, I have panic attacks because I am so frustrated with myself.

CSchultz · 03-29-2008, 03:41 AM

Give any man a television remote control, and you will see ADD in each of us. I have a satellite dish, about a hundred channels, and I get so angry when I watch TV which is about two hours a month.

When I do have the time I find one program that I like, but I have to find another, and when a commercial comes on, I switch.

Gosh! I get so frustrated when the other channel has syncronized it's commercials with the first program!

You would think that for 20 bucks a month I could watch tv for two hours without having to have a kaniption fit!

Yet Alas, I too suffer from ADD.

SweetSurrender · 03-29-2008, 03:43 AM

Violet, I feel so sorry that you have these feelings. Are you taking any meds for this problem? I showed your reply to Norm and he said medication helps him so much. But, he doesn't have the same feelings you have. He had a very violent childhood in which his father killed his mother at his age of 14. So, he thinks that's why he has panic attacks (also his father tried to drown him at a young age). But, he takes meds for panic attacks also. Since we have moved here to Iowa, he is a different person to live with and I believe it is because of the meds he was put on after he tried to commit suicide.

I just wish you did not feel the way you do about yourself. You have helped many, many people on this forum and you are such a sweet, understanding, and forgiving person. God has blessed us with you! Dear, Violet, I will pray for you because you should not have to go through this kind of thing. I will pray that God will show you what a blessed child of His you truly are. Love, Bonnie

violet · 03-29-2008, 03:45 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by CSchultz

Give any man a television remote control, and you will see ADD in each of us. I have a satellite dish, about a hundred channels, and I get so angry when I watch TV which is about two hours a month.

When I do have the time I find one program that I like, but I have to find another, and when a commercial comes on, I switch.

Gosh! I get so frustrated when the other channel has syncronized it's commercials with the first program!

You would think that for 20 bucks a month I could watch tv for two hours without having to have a kaniption fit!

Yet Alas, I too suffer from ADD.

It's what I do with the radio!

SweetSurrender · 03-29-2008, 03:45 AM

Hey, CSchultz, maybe that is why we don't have TV anymore. We hate the commercials too, and would rather rent a movie than to put up with TV. Makes us read more too.

violet · 03-29-2008, 03:55 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SweetSurrender

Violet, I feel so sorry that you have these feelings. Are you taking any meds for this problem? I showed your reply to Norm and he said medication helps him so much. But, he doesn't have the same feelings you have. He had a very violent childhood in which his father killed his mother at his age of 14. So, he thinks that's why he has panic attacks (also his father tried to drown him at a young age). But, he takes meds for panic attacks also. Since we have moved here to Iowa, he is a different person to live with and I believe it is because of the meds he was put on after he tried to commit suicide.

I just wish you did not feel the way you do about yourself. You have helped many, many people on this forum and you are such a sweet, understanding, and forgiving person. God has blessed us with you! Dear, Violet, I will pray for you because you should not have to go through this kind of thing. I will pray that God will show you what a blessed child of His you truly are. Love, Bonnie

Bonnie, oh my heavens, I feel so bad for your husband.
I am glad he has been blessed with a wife such as you.

I have talked to my Dr. about meds and he put me on antidepressants which do nothing for me.
I do take meds for panic attacks. I pray that I will overcome all this and have to take nothing but my thyroid medicine.
The problem, as you know, is that I am going through a divorce now and I believe my ADD is what destroyed my marriage.
I have been a burden on my entire family and I know I have, I don't blame them for being angry with me.

I have let them all down.

CSchultz · 03-29-2008, 03:56 AM

We had a very bad ice storm two months ago. Everything was by lamp light for a few days, we ate rabbit and veneson cooked on the grill, no computer or TV, no radio, hot water had to be cooked on the grill, so we were reminded of conservation.

It was very hard at first. (Silly things like flipping on the light switch when you went to the bathroom)

Soon, we became much closer. "I'm going to go outside and boil some water, is there anything you need while I'm at it?"

Stuff like that. We made shadow puppets by the light of a candle one night. We slept on one bed, under a pile of blankets, like they did in Jesus time.

ADD may be a symptom of modern reality in my personal opinion.

Violet, perhaps, just perhaps, you might want to see if you can find a few days to get away from everything, except God, your family, and yourself. You may discover that the ADD is really just a symptom of your lifestyle.

And if not, a few days making shadow puppets, and bathing in a bowl never hurt anybody!

SweetSurrender · 03-29-2008, 04:08 AM

That is really cool, Schultz! I think we all need to cut our electricity off once in awhile, just to draw us all closer to eachother. I'll bet the kids enjoyed it. Plus, it would be an excellent drill for a disaster. It could be done like a fire drill, and everything needed could be in a central location.

Violet, if your antidepressants do you no good, you should have your Dr. try another one on you. There's no sense in taking a drug that doesn't help you. There are many antidepressants on the market today and you just have to find the right one for you. Are any of the kids affected with this ADD? I don't know if it hyreditory (

). Hey, I think I need to get some zzz's. For the life of me, I can't figure out how to spell that H word. Is ADD catching? Heehee

03-29-2008, 03:04 AM	#1 (permalink)
violet Senior Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: England Posts: 8,128 Blog Entries: 13 Rep Power: 10	Adult A.D.D. Attention Deficit Disorder It is something I have lived with all my life and in the past 4-5 years I have suffered a great deal of guilt and shame over it. Does anyone else here suffer with A.D.D.? __________________ Violet http://just1lily.blogspot.com/ http://www.godlinked.com/profile/16qocogqqaf93 Matthew 10:38 ....he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me.

03-29-2008, 03:09 AM	#2 (permalink)
SweetSurrender Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Midwest Posts: 598 Rep Power: 1	Violet, why would you feel guilt and shame over having ADD? My husband has it and has learned to compensate for it. It seems so many kids are diagnosed with it today. But I don't see any shame in it. Bonnie __________________ I gently laid it all down to God in sweet surrender. And I heard Him whisper "Daughter."

03-29-2008, 03:21 AM	#3 (permalink)
violet Senior Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: England Posts: 8,128 Blog Entries: 13 Rep Power: 10	Thank you, Bonnie for your kind words. As I have gotten older it has become worse. My Dr. told me my thyroid disorder makes my A.D.D. 10 times worse. Many people with ADD suffer depression. I have had a battle with depression for a long time. Why do I feel guilt and shame? Because my family has suffered for my failures. I cannot put my thoughts in order. It's as though they swim around inside my head. My way of dealing with the confusion is to go on Shut Down mode. I fear failure so much that I give up. It's very scary to feel that everything you do is wrong. Whether it's true or not, it's how I feel. All my relationships have suffered from it and the problems is, no one really understands unless they have it. Trying to explain it to my family is like me talking Greek. Then, I have panic attacks because I am so frustrated with myself. __________________ Violet http://just1lily.blogspot.com/ http://www.godlinked.com/profile/16qocogqqaf93 Matthew 10:38 ....he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me.

03-29-2008, 03:43 AM	#5 (permalink)
SweetSurrender Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Midwest Posts: 598 Rep Power: 1	Violet, I feel so sorry that you have these feelings. Are you taking any meds for this problem? I showed your reply to Norm and he said medication helps him so much. But, he doesn't have the same feelings you have. He had a very violent childhood in which his father killed his mother at his age of 14. So, he thinks that's why he has panic attacks (also his father tried to drown him at a young age). But, he takes meds for panic attacks also. Since we have moved here to Iowa, he is a different person to live with and I believe it is because of the meds he was put on after he tried to commit suicide. I just wish you did not feel the way you do about yourself. You have helped many, many people on this forum and you are such a sweet, understanding, and forgiving person. God has blessed us with you! Dear, Violet, I will pray for you because you should not have to go through this kind of thing. I will pray that God will show you what a blessed child of His you truly are. Love, Bonnie __________________ I gently laid it all down to God in sweet surrender. And I heard Him whisper "Daughter."

03-29-2008, 03:45 AM	#7 (permalink)
SweetSurrender Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Midwest Posts: 598 Rep Power: 1	Hey, CSchultz, maybe that is why we don't have TV anymore. We hate the commercials too, and would rather rent a movie than to put up with TV. Makes us read more too. __________________ I gently laid it all down to God in sweet surrender. And I heard Him whisper "Daughter."

03-29-2008, 03:41 AM	#4 (permalink)
CSchultz Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Kansas Posts: 402 Rep Power: 1	Give any man a television remote control, and you will see ADD in each of us. I have a satellite dish, about a hundred channels, and I get so angry when I watch TV which is about two hours a month. When I do have the time I find one program that I like, but I have to find another, and when a commercial comes on, I switch. Gosh! I get so frustrated when the other channel has syncronized it's commercials with the first program! You would think that for 20 bucks a month I could watch tv for two hours without having to have a kaniption fit! Yet Alas, I too suffer from ADD.

03-29-2008, 03:56 AM	#9 (permalink)
CSchultz Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Kansas Posts: 402 Rep Power: 1	We had a very bad ice storm two months ago. Everything was by lamp light for a few days, we ate rabbit and veneson cooked on the grill, no computer or TV, no radio, hot water had to be cooked on the grill, so we were reminded of conservation. It was very hard at first. (Silly things like flipping on the light switch when you went to the bathroom) Soon, we became much closer. "I'm going to go outside and boil some water, is there anything you need while I'm at it?" Stuff like that. We made shadow puppets by the light of a candle one night. We slept on one bed, under a pile of blankets, like they did in Jesus time. ADD may be a symptom of modern reality in my personal opinion. Violet, perhaps, just perhaps, you might want to see if you can find a few days to get away from everything, except God, your family, and yourself. You may discover that the ADD is really just a symptom of your lifestyle. And if not, a few days making shadow puppets, and bathing in a bowl never hurt anybody!

03-29-2008, 04:08 AM	#10 (permalink)
SweetSurrender Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Midwest Posts: 598 Rep Power: 1	That is really cool, Schultz! I think we all need to cut our electricity off once in awhile, just to draw us all closer to eachother. I'll bet the kids enjoyed it. Plus, it would be an excellent drill for a disaster. It could be done like a fire drill, and everything needed could be in a central location. Violet, if your antidepressants do you no good, you should have your Dr. try another one on you. There's no sense in taking a drug that doesn't help you. There are many antidepressants on the market today and you just have to find the right one for you. Are any of the kids affected with this ADD? I don't know if it hyreditory (). Hey, I think I need to get some zzz's. For the life of me, I can't figure out how to spell that H word. Is ADD catching? Heehee __________________ I gently laid it all down to God in sweet surrender. And I heard Him whisper "Daughter."

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