Question on faithfulness~

violet · 08-14-2007, 02:01 PM

Is it possible to be unfaithful in a marriage if one has never committed adultery?

adoptivemommy · 08-14-2007, 02:12 PM

I'm not sure where the reference is exactly, but Jesus Himself said that if a man looks at a woman in an impure way he has already committed adultery with her. That particular verse really gives me the ebee-geebees, but I really think that this, like everything else about our walk with the Lord, is a matter of heart. I really don't think that if a man sees a beautiful woman and finds himself attracted to her for a second, but realizes what's going on, diverts his eyes and repents that he has committed adultery. I believe that happeneds when that same man dwells on the image and fills his heart and mind with thoughts of what would be like to be with her and finds himself no longer being attracted to his own wife and wishing she would either be that other woman or at least look like her. I really think there is a fine line we all must walk and the biggest, most wonderful thing that God has given us to help us in our walk is the power and privilege of repentance! My opinion!

Laura

violet · 08-14-2007, 02:16 PM

Laura, I think you explained that very well!
I think if you were not correct that many, many men would be guilty of adultery already~
Thank you~

adoptivemommy · 08-14-2007, 02:18 PM

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Originally Posted by violet

Laura, I think you explained that very well!
I think if you were not correct that many, many men would be guilty of adultery already~
Thank you~

... And women... And that's all I'm going to say about that!

Laura

violet · 08-14-2007, 02:24 PM

Laura, you are right. I should not limit this action to men!

InHisLove · 08-14-2007, 02:24 PM

Matthew 5:28 . . .

But I say unto you,
That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her
hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

I believe this also applies to women who looketh on a man to lust after him.

adoptivemommy · 08-14-2007, 02:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by InHisLove

Matthew 5:28 . . .

But I say unto you,
That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her
hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

I believe this also applies to women who looketh on a man to lust after him.

Amen sister!

Than you for the reference!

Laura

InHisLove · 08-14-2007, 03:40 PM

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Originally Posted by adoptivemommy

Amen sister!

Than you for the reference!

Laura

You're welcome.

Shannon · 08-15-2007, 03:24 AM

I agree with the fine line theory! Sometimes I think it's a question of how much intent is there too. If a man looks at a woman for a second and thinks whatever thoughts he will but then moves on, no harm done. If he looks at another woman and not only thinks those little thoughts but starts thinking about how he can actually make those happen, then he has crossed the line. I think taking a quick look is harmless (or even a long look) as long as it's JUST a look.

(And reverse all of that..change man to woman and woman to man because I also think it goes both ways!)

Banarenth · 08-15-2007, 12:08 PM

I've additionally heard that there is such a thing as "emotional cheating", which is sort of like binding yourself to another, even though you aren't getting "physical". My wife left me for a guy she was emotionally involved with, but they were not physically engaged.

08-14-2007, 02:01 PM	#1 (permalink)
violet Join Date: May 2007 Location: England Posts: 8,175 Blog Entries: 13 Rep Power: 10	Question on faithfulness~ Is it possible to be unfaithful in a marriage if one has never committed adultery? __________________ Violet Matthew 10:38 ....he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me.

08-14-2007, 02:12 PM	#2 (permalink)
adoptivemommy Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: bedford, texas Posts: 668 Rep Power: 2	I'm not sure where the reference is exactly, but Jesus Himself said that if a man looks at a woman in an impure way he has already committed adultery with her. That particular verse really gives me the ebee-geebees, but I really think that this, like everything else about our walk with the Lord, is a matter of heart. I really don't think that if a man sees a beautiful woman and finds himself attracted to her for a second, but realizes what's going on, diverts his eyes and repents that he has committed adultery. I believe that happeneds when that same man dwells on the image and fills his heart and mind with thoughts of what would be like to be with her and finds himself no longer being attracted to his own wife and wishing she would either be that other woman or at least look like her. I really think there is a fine line we all must walk and the biggest, most wonderful thing that God has given us to help us in our walk is the power and privilege of repentance! My opinion! Laura __________________ Forgiveness is *His Signature*!

08-14-2007, 02:16 PM	#3 (permalink)
violet Join Date: May 2007 Location: England Posts: 8,175 Blog Entries: 13 Rep Power: 10	Laura, I think you explained that very well! I think if you were not correct that many, many men would be guilty of adultery already~ Thank you~ __________________ Violet Matthew 10:38 ....he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me.

08-14-2007, 02:24 PM	#5 (permalink)
violet Join Date: May 2007 Location: England Posts: 8,175 Blog Entries: 13 Rep Power: 10	Laura, you are right. I should not limit this action to men! __________________ Violet Matthew 10:38 ....he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me.

08-14-2007, 02:24 PM	#6 (permalink)
InHisLove Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: On My Way To Heaven Posts: 407 Rep Power: 1	Matthew 5:28 . . . But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed* adultery with her already in his heart.* I believe this also applies to women who looketh on a man to lust after him. __________________ Look Forward And Progress! Look Backward And Run Into Things!

08-15-2007, 03:24 AM	#9 (permalink)
Shannon Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Northeast Iowa Posts: 481 Rep Power: 1	I agree with the fine line theory! Sometimes I think it's a question of how much intent is there too. If a man looks at a woman for a second and thinks whatever thoughts he will but then moves on, no harm done. If he looks at another woman and not only thinks those little thoughts but starts thinking about how he can actually make those happen, then he has crossed the line. I think taking a quick look is harmless (or even a long look) as long as it's JUST a look. (And reverse all of that..change man to woman and woman to man because I also think it goes both ways!) __________________ I can do everything through Him who gives me strength! Philippians 4:13 There are four things that are too mysterious for me to understand: an eagle flying in the sky, a snake moving on a rock, a ship finding its way over the sea and a man and woman falling in love. Proverbs 30:18-19

08-15-2007, 12:08 PM	#10 (permalink)
Banarenth Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Orlando Posts: 2,832 Blog Entries: 4 Rep Power: 4	I've additionally heard that there is such a thing as "emotional cheating", which is sort of like binding yourself to another, even though you aren't getting "physical". My wife left me for a guy she was emotionally involved with, but they were not physically engaged.

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