Question on faithfulness~ - Page 3

FallingWaters · 11-13-2007, 02:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by violet

Is it possible to be unfaithful in a marriage if one has never committed adultery?

Yes. I believe it's possible to be emotionally unfaithful.

violet · 11-13-2007, 03:11 PM

I thank you all for your responses!

Jax · 12-09-2007, 07:44 AM

I think it is quite easy if one is not careful to get emotionally involved with someone of the opposite sex, especially if one see's a spirituality in them that they arent seeing in their spouse.
I almost fell victim to this myself about five years ago when I was going through a rough patch, I shared too much about myself, and a very 'nice' guy latched onto it, and 'helped' me a lot.
I found that I was getting very emotionally drawn to him.
It took a real move of God to open my eyes to what was happening, and I am so glad He showed me my foolishness.
I repented for my part and dealt with it, breaking all contact, but adultery in one's heart can start with an emotional attachment, even to a person that we have never physically met.
Be on your guard.

violet · 12-09-2007, 10:20 AM

Jax, I agree and you have offered such proof. Someone I know does not believe that this is possible and denies it could ever happen! Thank you, Sister.

Boanerges · 12-09-2007, 02:40 PM

There is none so blind as he who will not see- author unknown

mikeOfChrist · 12-20-2007, 02:50 AM

Since no body is perfect, how about no one gets married, or has any close relationships with anyone, since we are all weak, and we all just wrap ourselves in

Bubble wrap, because sooner or later we will all hurt ourselves, and others, and they likewise will hurt us also??????????

I guess the reason we can't do so, is there would not be enough Bubble wrap in the whole entire world????????????

I am alone, but then again would You really want to use Me for an example, or kinda just sweep Me under the rug, and hope no one notices

mikeOfChrist · 12-20-2007, 02:54 AM

God Loves us, and We Love God, and we love our spouces,

but are we not all imperfect ----or if You prefer, the only

"toys" who actualy realize we live on the "Island of Misfit

Toys"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

mikeOfChrist · 12-20-2007, 02:57 AM

And as Squared wheel Choo-Choo's, which have have to

get along with water pistols which shoot grape jelly, and

Jim in the Boxes, etc.., ( if I Be-Member correctly )

Tarantula · 01-22-2008, 07:06 PM

What if the one you get "emotionally involved" with is taken, they know how you feel and feel bad that they may have drawn you that way, you know they are in a relationship, and they seem to be generally a better person than your partner? I'm using this purely hypothetically, you can tell. Before you ask, she lives over an hour away (which is a lot in UK) and I've known her for five years. I think, when we started talking, I can't even remember how, but there was a spark between us. We put this down to merely getting on quite well (I'm not very good at socialising, so this was uncommon to me) and we had a lot in common. This eventually died down and we started talking as friends for the five years following. However, recently, reminiscing that I have gotten on better with her than any other girl I've ever known, I've started to almost miss liking her more than just as a friend. She's incredibly pretty, and I feel blessed that a loser like me could have a friend like her, but all these things have led me to do things I have never done before. That being: thinking of someone other than the girl I am with. That said, it is -very- hard not to indulge in the almost comfort it brings. I'm speaking from the sinner's end here. Most people here are the sufferers of perpertrators like me, and I hope I can offer a scope and insight into the kind of mind that falls for this easy sin.

FallingWaters · 01-24-2008, 03:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Tarantula

What if the one you get "emotionally involved" with is taken, they know how you feel and feel bad that they may have drawn you that way, you know they are in a relationship, and they seem to be generally a better person than your partner? I'm using this purely hypothetically, you can tell. Before you ask, she lives over an hour away (which is a lot in UK) and I've known her for five years. I think, when we started talking, I can't even remember how, but there was a spark between us. We put this down to merely getting on quite well (I'm not very good at socialising, so this was uncommon to me) and we had a lot in common. This eventually died down and we started talking as friends for the five years following. However, recently, reminiscing that I have gotten on better with her than any other girl I've ever known, I've started to almost miss liking her more than just as a friend. She's incredibly pretty, and I feel blessed that a loser like me could have a friend like her, but all these things have led me to do things I have never done before. That being: thinking of someone other than the girl I am with. That said, it is -very- hard not to indulge in the almost comfort it brings. I'm speaking from the sinner's end here. Most people here are the sufferers of perpetrators like me, and I hope I can offer a scope and insight into the kind of mind that falls for this easy sin.

Thank you for admitting that you're sinning. I feel for you.
You sound like me in that I can "idealize" people and relationships. Whenever I look back, everything always seems so much sweeter and better, and I don't remember the bad as well. (Except of course, for some things that were truly bad.)

Close that door. It's not an option. She's taken.

However, why stay in the relationship you're in when y our whole heart isn't in it? You are technically defrauding this woman. I'm assuming you're not married. If you ARE married, then you need to cultivate your relationship with your spouse.

If you're not married, why don't you wait patiently for the person who IS right for you? And the first step is to work on yourself until you stop thinking of yourself as a loser. We attract someone to ourselves who is our "emotional equal". Get yourself ready for your dream girl. Grow in your personal relationship with God and let Him mature you.

Just speaking from experience.

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