FaithColleen

I think it is easier nowadays to find someone who believes (and not only pretends to do so) than it was 10 or more years ago. There are certain websites set up for the purpose of christian dating and I think that's great because dating is supposed to lead to marriage.

slavetoChrist

sorry. I can't imagine being married or marrying someone who is not a believer as a believer myself.

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James B

I've never met a female Christian in my life! I've met three male Christians though.

Seems every woman who i COULD be with, is a non believer.

slavetoChrist

I would just like to explain the part of my post which was removed. I was trying to lighten it with humor but it was a very valid point that I was making.

First, that the issue of being unequally yoked and the hardships that it brings do not just extend just to our current relationship; be it spouse or boyfriend. It can be a coworker, or anyone we have to spend time with. In my case it is my ex-wife.

Second, that I understand and appreciate how hard it is to be with or around someone who does not share your spiritual views and the struggle which it brings.

Third, I was not joking that my ex-wife is a wiccan. She is, in fact. Of course, when I married her I was an atheist, so her spiritual views bore little importance to me. Now, however, that I must be the best father I can be to my daughter, and that I am a believer; I am forced to play a role that is not easy. Part of it is due to the fact that it was I who did so much damage to them both, and she cannot let it go or move on. The other part, however, is because of our very different religious views.

Fourth, I was not trying to be funny.. just tried to state it in a funny way. But the question I was asking was meant to be serious. Does it not count that I am unequally yoked with an ex-wife, bound to her by my flesh and blood that I love with all that I am? I know that an ex-wife is not a wife, and that I do not live with her, but is it not still the same nature of a struggle? .. Do I not have valid basis for posting on this thread? ...

Either way, I am sorry if I offended you or any of you who took my post to mean anything but what it did. That seems to be the way I am sometimes, I don't always explain myself, and try to cover the serious issues with humor that sometimes gives off a different impression than I intend it to. For that I am sorry.

Sorry I interrupted the thread.. I just thought it would bear to explain myself and to apologize to anyone I offended.

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Boanerges

That sounds right to me Laura.

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Jax

Really?
In the Church down south there are literally hundreds of Christian women praying for a Christian husband, so if your not married maybe you need to
re locate!
(I'm married by the way)

Housesitter

I assume that you mean you have never met a Christian woman whom you would consider dating not that you have never met a Christian woman.
If you have really never met any woman who is a Christian you really do need to attend a church.
If my assumption is correct what does your comment about having met 3 Christian males mean?

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Faithwoman

Ok I ran across this thread again after so much has happened to me.
I will share my Lesson from God that I wrote.

Also I will say be cautious on Christian internet dating sites as well.. there are alot of wolves in sheep's clothing:

A Lesson from God

Man What a Journey it has been. God has been trying to talk to me for a long time. It was trust in him. It was a longing from him for me to love him with my whole heart. It was my total heart and focus he has wanted for so long.

You see for so long, I was living life trying to do it my way. I was just sure I had the answers what was best for me. I just wanted to be loved. I just wanted to be accepted. This longing lead me down a long road of relationships with men. Seeking to be loved , that was my mission, not knowing all along God loved me.

God really spoke to me this past week-end. You see I have been in a relationship with yet another man. Man I loved him. But I did not trust him. I always felt there was something there. I met this man 19 months ago. We sat upon a deck and shared our hearts on that first week-end. We shared our weaknesses and strengths. He shared from his heart that his was porn. Mine was lack of trust. I was always hurt and betrayed in the past. He shared about a woman from the past that met his physical needs in life. He did not love her the way that a man and woman loved each other. They had a chemistry physical attraction. He told me about her and how persistent she was in calling. He told me this in case she called. We had an awesome first week-end together. He gave me a garage door opener to his home. His home was now a place where I was welcome to share in life.
I was given access to his computer. There was never once any words spoken do not look here, do not look there. But you see, in the past I was always looking for some sign of distrust. People hurt me. They betrayed me. As I did not treasure my body, the temple given to me from the Lord, I was having sexual relations with them. Oh yes there were a few moments of pleasure, but it was not long lasting. Not enough to fulfill me.

I continued in this relationship. We prayed together. We had devotions together. I experienced things in life I never had before. This man cared for me. He did little things for me, he did big things for me. He loved me. He encouraged me to reach my dreams.
He prayed with me. He encouraged me to get healthy. He was right there with me when I swam across that lake. He was there holding me when I was in frustration and tears with working full time job, a part time job and carrying 16 credits for college. But in my heart, I kept thinking does he really love just me? Since he has his struggles and I know what they are, can he just really love me? Is he still turning to others to meet his physical needs?

We were late one day in going to church and that is when I found the chapel. This little church at the bottom of a hill. I heard the message how much God loves me. I heard the message of salvation. Yes a few years back I gave my life to Christ, but I truly did not know what it meant. As I continued at church there, I continued to learn how awesome Jesus is, what he did for me. He died for me! He died to take all of my sins and hurts and pains! Pick up the word and read the truth. That was what I was encouraged to do.

So I stared to seek God diligently. But in the back of my heart, I still had fear and untrust.
A chain of events which I shall write about later, led me to seek sexual purity. I truly wanted to be obedient to God. I truly wanted the answers in life. I wanted the victorious life that is written in the Bible. Upon doing this, I started with a discharge which led me to the doctor’s office. I had a pap smear done and all of my sexual disease testing done.
The test came back abnormal. I was diagnosed with High risk HPV and Mild Dysplasia.
Well I just knew now! He must have been screwing around with someone else. (Even though this virus can live in our bodies for a long time and then rear it’s ugly head).
Oh and yes, I snooped and looked at his cell phone. He was still calling her as she was calling him.. I did not understand it! Why? when he loved me.

Through this time, as I became obedient with tithing, having sexual purity and being in the word, God started to really bless me. He has always been with me, he never left me,but I left him. Out of the blue, I got a call about another job offer which would lead me to a land of the unknown at the same time I would be only 45 minutes away from the man I loved. Now mind you, I still had that hidden sin. I hid my untrust. I just did not want to be betrayed again. I prayed to God that if this was part of his plan for me, for that door to be wide open. Well God is amazing! He got me on a airplane to go to that interview. I was number 68 out of 142 for standby on a plane. There were only 6 seats available and my name got called!

I got to that interview and then the lesson of patience came in once again. I waited for the call. As I did, I seeked God like I never had before. I fasted. I prayed. I wrote out a specific prayer. I wanted answers and I knew God could provide them. Now mind you, I had at the same time gotten the news of potential cervical cancer due to exposure to an STD, another scar of my impure life. The call came with the offer, but part of me still had to know, how much this man loved me. I made arrangements to go visit the facilty.
This would also give me the time and another day to get a vision of whether or not, cancer was invading me. I could also talk to the man about his loyalty to me. You see I thought it was the man in life and his loyalty to me that I needed to talk about, but really it was God that wanted me to see and talk to him!

As I sat with the man I loved, and went around a conversation for 2 hours, I came to read the scripture to him, James 5:16 – therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a rightetous man is powerful and effective. James 5:19- My brothers if one of you should wander from the truth and someone should bring him back, 20:- remember this : Whoever turns a sinner from the error of his way will save him from death and cover over a multitude of sins.
I read it the first time- and a voice said “read it again” and I did. It was at that moment I found God was speaking to me- it was me that had wandered from the truth. It was me, God wanted to speak to- not the man I loved. Here I sat and basically was questioning this man’s fidelity and love to me, but God wanted to know my fidelity and love to him!

We went to sleep that night. The next morning, we went to breakfast, he was off in a zone, I said earth to you- he said he was there but he was thinking of last night’s conversation. I said can we talk about it when we get home? When we got home, we got busy snowblowing the neighbor’s drive as we walked up the street, he said you know I do love you. We had dinner that night with the neighbor’s. When we got home and sat down to cigar time, I said you asked me why I would ask such a thing of you. It was at that moment that the past 46 years of my life poured out in pain.
I relived every untrust and betrayal that had happened to me in past relationships. It was then that I confessed, yes I look at your cell phone. I look to see who has called you, and who you are calling. Yes I see where you have called her, the unknown woman. The one who you told me, you would not call. He did not deny it. He stated she had called due to a lump found and she was scared. I cried in pain. I told him of what all the other men in my life had done to me. I looked at him through my tears and said all I ever wanted was to be loved! I wanted to be accepted. I wanted someone to love me. I looked at him and asked for forgiveness, he said you know it is easy to forgive and he was silent for a long time. I knew what he was thinking, it is easy to forgive, but do we ever forget? We prayed. I knew in my heart we cannot judge one another that we are taught by the word to love one another. We cannot show impartiality.

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Faithwoman

As we arose the next morning to go to the Lord’s house, the message started with a video of a man sitting in the aiport with luggage coming down from the plane, he talked about betrayal and hurts in life. As the video ended, Pastor Rob walked across the stage pulling a suitcase behind him, he looked out to the filled church and spoke “ how many of you sitting here today have past hurts, pains and feelings of betrayal?” How many of you can relate whether it been a spouse who hurt you? whether it have been a friend? “ and the list when on. He spoke you are not alone. Jesus was betrayed as well. Peter denied him three times. Even though Jesus was denied, he took the beatings. As the message went on, the Pastor walked over to the cross on stage and stated “ you no longer need to carry your baggage of hurts, pain and betrayal, leave them at the cross. Jesus died for you. He died to take all your hurts, pain and betrayal. As he dropped that suitcase at that cross, he stated it about having faith. Faith is not something that one can just say “ I have faith and life will be fine”, no it is a moment by moment walk with Jesus. Turning to him and having faith and trust in him. He can and has saved you. As I sat there in tears from the beginning of the message, I finally got it! God showed me what love and trust and faith was all about. Yes, the pastor said people will continue to betray us. They will continue to hurt us, but with Jesus, we can give this to him. Have faith and walk with him.

Oh what a cleansing it was. I had told God last week, that I was tired of getting up every morning feeling the way that I did with hidden sins heavy in my heart. I did not want to go on pretending anymore that all was ok. I did not want to go forward in my life anymore feeling the way I felt. Here all along, I kept feeling I could not trust. That no one was loving me the way I needed to loved. All along God wanted me to see it was him and is him that truly loves me. He will provide all I need. As I turn and have a relationship with him first and foremost, blessings will flow upon me.

Monday morning, I went back to the facility that offered me the position. I got to tour the facility. I prayed to the Lord, that if it is from you, have the gate be wide open. It was an awesome morning. The offer was even better than the first, plus they could provide temporary housing for me until I was able to relocate. I told God it was not about the money. It was his path for me that I sought. I left there to travel back home to have my procedure to check for cervical cancer. I prayed with the doctor before she did my procedure. I said Lord I give you all praises and thanks ! You are an awesome God. I am so thankful you led me to sexual purity and I sit here before you today Lord. We pray that there be no abnormality within my body, if there is dear Lord, we know you will handle it for me. She prepared me for the exam. As she examined me, I was in continuous prayer. I asked Jesus to take the pain for me. I only felt 10 seconds of pain throughout it all.
She completed the exam. She spoke “ I do not see any abnormality to the naked eye. I took some scrapings and took a sample from the inside of the cervix. We will send that off and hopefully all will be normal.”. I cannot begin to tell you how I felt! God is awesome! I gave thanks and praise to him! I wanted to shout to the world and I did as I was driving home. With such a cleansing of all fears and relief, I cried and gave thanks!

So there you have my journey of this past week-end. There is my lesson from God.
As I wrote this morning, I turned from the computer and got down on my knees and I cried once again! This time with tears of joy! I thanked God! I told him how awesome he was! I told him he has my heart, he has my whole being and to please guide me and use me as he wants to. The next step of my journey is to await the letter of intent from my new employer. Once I receive that, I will give notice. Upon doing this, I look forward with expectation as to how God will direct me. I know with all of this victory, Satan will come knocking really hard and powerful, because he does not want me to win the battle.
But God is so much stronger than Satan. He has Satan on a short leash. He will not allow Satan to tempt me any more than what his will for me is. God does and will provide a way out of temptation that comes my way and for that I am so thankful!
Glory and praise to our Lord Jesus Christ! He has risen ! He has risen indeed. One day he will come again, and it is awesome to know I am continuing on his journey to be ready for that day!

Faithwoman

slavetoChrist

men and women are so different.. lol

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