Boanerges

I would be the last one to argue with you about that. If we learned to love our wives as Christ loves the Church there would be far less trouble, if wives found it in their hearts to love their husbands as commanded by God there would be far less trouble.
The first recorded sin was I trouble- I will be, I will ascend, I will etc and the source of most sin and contention is the same today- to many people just caring about the big I person in their lives- themselves.

Tarantula

Okay I don't think I really understood that last bit?
By the way Boan, it has been a while to talk to someone and enjoy it like conversing with yourself ^_^

BreathOfGod

That is true, and often God is not in charge at some point or maybe not at any point. Honestly, sometimes people marry while they are not Christians, and God is not in charge. If one spouse becomes a Christian, or even if one spouse is a Christian from the beginning...... either way there is still one spouse left in the equation who is not a Christian and is not allowing God to be in control.


I know that many churches recognize three times that divorce is okay: 1) adultery, 2) abuse, and 3) if one spouse is a non-believer and asks for a divorce. (I think I recall seeing number 3 in the Bible some place, but off hand I do not know the reference.)


Divorce is certainly not desirable and should be a last resort. Fortunately God is forgiving of all our faults and sins. I am more than likely going through a divorce right now. It's posted in the prayer request area. It is not something that I want or desire. I am in my 5th month of pregnancy with my fourth child and I worry about the health of my unborn child as I go through all of this turmoil and pain. I have lost over 20 pounds during this pregnancy, and I am daily in tears. I am trying my best to eat right, take vitamins, and keep myself together for all my children.

Tarantula

I'm guessing nobody read what I wrote about "yoking in fellowship", not "yoking in relationship"...

Okay I'm leaving that there just so people know how stupid I was for writing that. No posts were coming up, I swear.

Beloved

I was not saved before I married, at 19...but I thought I was... So I did not have wisdom of any kind...

I'm 54 and married for Not good at math... Anyway,

UNDER NO CONDITIONS SHOULD A CHRISTIAN MARRY A NON-CHRISTIAN... MY MARRAIGE HAS BEEN FOR THE MOST PART HELL... THOUGH THERE ARE TIMES OF PEACE AND FUN... HE HAS NO MORAL COMPASS, HE DOES WHATEVER FEELS GOOD... WHETHER IT DEVASTATES ME OR NOT ...

NO POINT IN GOING FURTHER, I STAY FOR NOW BECAUSE IT IS THE LORDS WILL, FOR NOW...

The one I concentrate on is my 1st husband, Christ, He is everything I need in a husband and more, much, much, more... When its time to leave, He'll tell me, if it ever comes to pass...

I need prayer for this year... We are going to marraige counceling and I have started bringing up serious issues, concerning hubbies behavior... He blames me for all his behavior and grinds his teeth... Our counselor doesn't let him get by with it though...

Since last March hubbies been complaining about how angry he gets because of how I use the paper shredder, and turn off lights that are not being used at home and a variety of other non-sense...

I hope I've said enough to dis-illusion anyone, from marrying or even dating a non-Christian...

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Shalom

( SHALOM says: Completeness, wholeness, health, peace, welfare, safety soundness, tranquility, prosperity, perfectness, fullness, rest, harmony, the absence of agitation or discord. )

Beloved
1 Corinthians 14:1 Let Love be your highest goal.

Boanerges

Likewise I have enjoyed talking to you brother!

Faithwoman

Good evening all.. it is the fake blonde woman again.. lol..
Ok. I must say.. did ya all get addicted to the forum when you first found it when you were really looking to strengthen your walk with the Lord?
I confess.. I am.. but am learning so much.

So a little education here for me please.

Please explain the difference between fornication and adultery for me.

Then the next question is this.. since I am a divorced woman does the Bible state that no man should marry me?

ok.. now I did read the part about the equally yoked and how it meant workers, not relationships.. I thought whoaaaaaaaaa wait a minute .. how many times have I heard that a couple should be equally yoked in their relationship? .. so that one did get me thinking a bit.

And I will say... moving forward in my life, I will not date a man that is not a Christian.. I am currently dating a Christian man.. and it has made a huge difference. on our first date, he took my hand and gave grace right there at the table in the restaraunt.. blew me away! .. and it is wonderful to have someone to pray with, someone to have devotions with...even via phone as we are 2 hours from each other... .. ok now all that said.. here is the But.. darn it there is always a But! lol!.... we are all sinners and dealing with that.. and with each other's weaknesses is where the true test comes in..
Even with being Christians, we sin with our sexual intimacy.. and now if you read in other posts.. I want to live in the full obedience of the Lord.. I feel I am being led to a ministry with young teen women at a local pregnancy crisis center.. therefore a pledge is required to sign.. which states I will commit to Sexual Purity and I believe in chastity outside of marriage.

The Lord is saying Wake up woman.. see it is Purity I want... which I truly do want to follow the Lord's path.. I am tired of living all the consequences of my poor choices in life..

I truly do want to live God's will, and we pray for the Lord to show us our path.. his as an individual , mine as an individual.. and ours as a couple.. let's be real.. do you really think the Lord is going to bless this relationship when the sinning is going on.. just my thoughts.. and I am way open to offers of words and wisdom...

Faithwoman

Tarantula

Uh, I was gonna say Jesus isn't your husband, but I remember that The Bride of Christ is the Church, so... But that IS metephorical. You're not going to end up pregnant on some honeymoon with Jesus' kid. Something's amiss...

Tarantula

Firstly, fornication is just sex in general (intercoursal), adultery is doing it out of your allowed boundaries.

Second question, yes theoretically it says you shouldn't, howeverthis is Jewish law, and I'm sure you're a gentile. Also the new covenant (which does NOT erase the first. Covenants are permanent, unlike, say, a contract) may allow the mercy, but as said previously, i think a sincere plead for foriveness for having to get divorced in the first marriage, even if it wasn't your fault, is required just to show you want to forget and move on, that you're sorry and you don't want that sin to get between you and Him. I need the loo and to get up, as I'm still in bed at 10ish am. So that's all I'm writing.

Boanerges

Fornication is sex outside of wedlock in any sexual form.
Adultery is unfaithfullness to ones marriage vow in any sexual form.

We (the church) are litterally the bride of Christ, His beloved and His betrothed. We are the New Jerusalem, the place of His dwelling upon His return. We are His craftmanship, we are built up as living stones Jesus Christ being the Chief Cornerstone upon which we are laid, fit for the Masters habitation, we are the pillars of the Holy Temple, we are the Temple of the Holy Spirit, we are the shining jewels that make His holy city. We are His delight, we are Hids joy, We are Hie treasure, we are the apple of His eye, we are the very reason for calvary, we are His.

These are of course my opinions on the subject