Thread: Hots on for nowhere

Hi everybloody.

I'm 20, male and in the Air Force. I'm about to be stationed in Germany for 2 years. I have this problem where I get really lonely. I have a TON of great friends (dudes and girls alike) but I'm not dating anyone. I know that I'm young and that I need to focus on my relationship with god because my life is still rapidly changing.
I often become gripped with an overwhelming sense of loneliness (the kind single dudes get) and I sometimes am seized by an irrational fear that I'll never meet any girls that I can settle down with and that I'll be alone forever. The thought of going to Germany scares me a little, that I'll be there for two years and be REALLY lonely. I want to not care and to not even think about girls right now, that's my problem. What can I do to shake this? What does God say about it?

To anyone who decides to lend their advice, thank you very much.

Hello, Audioslave. First of all, thank you for your service.

At twenty years old it's normal for you to want the attention and companionship of young women.That's actually normal at any age. With that said, please do not fear loneliness. You are very young still, young enough to appreciate your younger years and determine God's will for your life. You can be a tremendous servant of the Lord while not tied down to the responsibilities of a relationship, or worse, ensnared in the world of serial dating. God has a purpose and a plan for all of us at various stages in our lives. Seek His perfect will first and foremost.

Psalm 46:1
"God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble."

Philippians 4:6
"Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God."

John 16:32
"But a time is coming, and has come, when you will be scattered, each to his own home. You will leave me all alone. Yet I am not alone, for my Father is with me."

Philippians 4:11-13
"Not that I speak in regard to need, for I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content: I know how to be abased, and I know how to abound. Everywhere and in all things I have learned both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me."

Philippians 4:19
"And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus."

Thanks for the responses. I really appreciate what you both said.

Blessedwife, what you say is absolutely correct. While I'm still single and free of any obligation to anybody, I can really devote myself to serving god and serving others. I'm going to look into volunteer opportunities I can help out with while I have the time to devote to them. The verse from Philippians really speaks to me...Thank you!!

xspinningisfun (which isn't really fun, it makes me throw up), it's interesting to hear your story. I can draw a parallel, because I've definitely allowed my problem to cloud my mind and take my focus away from the things that should be foremost. I'm struck by what you said, "Whatever breaks God's heart, let it break yours." I'm going to think about that.

Thanks again for the responses. I really appreciate them.