Advice for 17 year old daughter

Tall_geena · 04-03-2008, 03:41 PM

My daughter is 17 and she and her wonderful new husband just married last week. They are currently living in our basement to save money for a house of their own (renting just doesn't make sense). Knowing what I know now, I wish I would saved more myself, especuially when I was younger. How much of that 'savings' mentality should I be mentioing to her? or, should I take a more reserved, less verbal approach and let her be and let her make her own mistakes?

Boanerges · 04-03-2008, 03:56 PM

Personally I would give her as much good advice as she will hear. "Those who do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it"- I don't no the author on that one. Anyway here is a link to a Christ centered website that specializes
in financial advice based on biblical principle:
Crown Financial Ministries

violet · 04-03-2008, 04:19 PM

I knew a Pastor once and this is what he did.
He charged rent.
This was his way of keeping them responsible.
When it was time for them to leave, he gave every penny of that money back.
He knew he would make a better bank than they would.

IHeartLarrytheCucumber · 04-03-2008, 07:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by violet

I knew a Pastor once and this is what he did.

He charged rent.
This was his way of keeping them responsible.
When it was time for them to leave, he gave every penny of that money back.
He knew he would make a better bank than they would.

What a wonderful surprise for them! That's such a blessing. (In disguise, for them!)

Tall_geena · 04-03-2008, 08:34 PM

Thank you. Charging rent is a great idea, except that I don't want to seem greedy and perhaps tarnish the great relationship I have with her. You see, i call her my oldest at 17, but I have a 19 year old daughter, of which I do not speak to. And, my 17 year old and I have so much in common, now that she's married, I almost look at her as more of my sister than daughter. We are both extremely tall (i am 6 foot 2 and she's 6 foot 1) and we are both married to shorter husbands (like mother like daughter? lol) I have always been so mousy because of my height, and my daughter walks around like a proud gazelle. Sometimes I think I learn from her. I just wish she wouldnt always have to buy that 8th pair of sandals, or waste her money on stupid stuff.

Jon-Marc · 04-04-2008, 12:27 AM

When we're young and foolish we think we know what's best and won't listen to anyone else. I doubt that young people are any different now as when I was young.

Boanerges · 04-04-2008, 01:25 PM

It is always amazing how much smarter our parents seem when we start to mature.

Faithwoman · 04-08-2008, 04:04 AM

I agree with the idea of having them pay rent. It does not need to be as much as a normal rent of an apartment but to help them learn responsbility and such is a great help.

My 23 year old son lives with my parents right now. he just graduated from college and got a job in the area that they live.

My parents are charging him rent. They are doing exactly what is mentioned they are putting it aside and when he goes to move on in life, they will bless him back with it. They want to be able to help him but not enable him.

Robin

BCheezy · 04-08-2008, 11:03 PM

Whatever you do, I would pound it into their heads that they need to save money. I'm 19, and I always want as much advice on everything I can get. Not getting advice about things in high school made me pretty ticked off. Getting the right advice would have caused me to do it a whole lot differently.

Advice is never a bad thing. Pound it into their skulls as often as possible.

04-03-2008, 03:41 PM	#1 (permalink)
Tall_geena Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: warren Posts: 5 Rep Power: 0	Advice for 17 year old daughter My daughter is 17 and she and her wonderful new husband just married last week. They are currently living in our basement to save money for a house of their own (renting just doesn't make sense). Knowing what I know now, I wish I would saved more myself, especuially when I was younger. How much of that 'savings' mentality should I be mentioing to her? or, should I take a more reserved, less verbal approach and let her be and let her make her own mistakes?

04-03-2008, 03:56 PM	#2 (permalink)
Boanerges Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: St Rose LA Posts: 16,835 Blog Entries: 3 Rep Power: 18	Personally I would give her as much good advice as she will hear. "Those who do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it"- I don't no the author on that one. Anyway here is a link to a Christ centered website that specializes in financial advice based on biblical principle: Crown Financial Ministries __________________ Because the Lord Jesus died on the Cross, I have received forgiveness of sins; because the Lord Jesus rose from the dead, I have received new life; because the Lord Jesus has been exalted to the right hand of the Father, I have received the outpoured Spirit. All is because of Him; nothing is because of me." Watchman Nee

04-03-2008, 04:19 PM	#3 (permalink)
violet Join Date: May 2007 Location: England Posts: 8,175 Blog Entries: 13 Rep Power: 10	I knew a Pastor once and this is what he did. He charged rent. This was his way of keeping them responsible. When it was time for them to leave, he gave every penny of that money back. He knew he would make a better bank than they would. __________________ Violet Matthew 10:38 ....he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me.

04-04-2008, 01:25 PM	#7 (permalink)
Boanerges Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: St Rose LA Posts: 16,835 Blog Entries: 3 Rep Power: 18	It is always amazing how much smarter our parents seem when we start to mature. __________________ Because the Lord Jesus died on the Cross, I have received forgiveness of sins; because the Lord Jesus rose from the dead, I have received new life; because the Lord Jesus has been exalted to the right hand of the Father, I have received the outpoured Spirit. All is because of Him; nothing is because of me." Watchman Nee

04-08-2008, 11:03 PM	#9 (permalink)
BCheezy Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Seattle Posts: 281 Rep Power: 1	Whatever you do, I would pound it into their heads that they need to save money. I'm 19, and I always want as much advice on everything I can get. Not getting advice about things in high school made me pretty ticked off. Getting the right advice would have caused me to do it a whole lot differently. Advice is never a bad thing. Pound it into their skulls as often as possible. __________________

04-03-2008, 08:34 PM	#5 (permalink)
Tall_geena Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: warren Posts: 5 Rep Power: 0	Thank you. Charging rent is a great idea, except that I don't want to seem greedy and perhaps tarnish the great relationship I have with her. You see, i call her my oldest at 17, but I have a 19 year old daughter, of which I do not speak to. And, my 17 year old and I have so much in common, now that she's married, I almost look at her as more of my sister than daughter. We are both extremely tall (i am 6 foot 2 and she's 6 foot 1) and we are both married to shorter husbands (like mother like daughter? lol) I have always been so mousy because of my height, and my daughter walks around like a proud gazelle. Sometimes I think I learn from her. I just wish she wouldnt always have to buy that 8th pair of sandals, or waste her money on stupid stuff.

04-04-2008, 12:27 AM	#6 (permalink)
Jon-Marc Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Hudson, FL Posts: 451 Rep Power: 1	When we're young and foolish we think we know what's best and won't listen to anyone else. I doubt that young people are any different now as when I was young.

04-08-2008, 04:04 AM	#8 (permalink)
Faithwoman Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: New York Posts: 426 Rep Power: 1	I agree with the idea of having them pay rent. It does not need to be as much as a normal rent of an apartment but to help them learn responsbility and such is a great help. My 23 year old son lives with my parents right now. he just graduated from college and got a job in the area that they live. My parents are charging him rent. They are doing exactly what is mentioned they are putting it aside and when he goes to move on in life, they will bless him back with it. They want to be able to help him but not enable him. Robin

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