Had Sex Feel So Horrible =/

Hey guys im a 21 year old man. I took out this chick on a date yesterday. Took her to my work (Im a bouncer at a bar and club) prob not the best place for a Christian to work but im looking for a new job. Anyways I only had one little drink didnt alter my judgement at all. First drink I've had in almost a year too. She drank 3 drinks and thats when I stopped her and said no more your alrdy drunk. I didn't even think 3 drinks would get her drunk but she also never drinks so her tolerance was weak. Anyways we go walk around and talk. I talk to her about Jesus and she said she goes to church and youth group and she trys to help out homeless. I Was really impressed. Didnt think I would hear that from her. Anyways we started kissing and stuff. And I tell her its getting late let me drop you back off. We get to her house and she asks me to walk her to her door. She than asks me to come in and this is where I messed up big time. Walk in and go sit on the couch. She said shes gonna change clothes. Calls my name and tells me to come to her room. Go to her room and shes completely naked. I couldnt control myself after that.... my will power is so weak when it comes to woman. Than we had sex.... I feel so horrible. When I got home I felt nauseous and had a high fever and a bad headache. I think the lord was trying to tell me what I did was wrong. Man guys I feel so bad the guilt is eating me up.... I already repented but I feel like crap because I Intentionally did it. Can you guys please pray for me
 
Alang, I am glad you felt "guilty" that just shows you your conscience is functioning properly. Remember Jesus said that "if you lust after a woman in your heart, you already committed adultery with her" James tells us that "when sin conceives in you it brings forth sin and sin when it is finished brings forth death" Once sin conceives in a man you will act on it. It is almost impossible to stop from happening. If you desire it, and she desires it, it will happen. You became trapped in your thinking process, and stumbled in your actions, because you did not guard your heart. The flesh does not have a conscience, and it is not listed as one of the works of the flesh. As far as the flesh is concerned it is ready to go anytime. It has no restraint and never wants to stop from sinning.
All you can do it confess your sin before God and he will forgive and cleanse you from all unrighteousness. Get back up and continue your walk in faith, and stay focused on things that are above not on earth.
 
Alang, I am glad you felt "guilty" that just shows you your conscience is functioning properly. Remember Jesus said that "if you lust after a woman in your heart, you already committed adultery with her" James tells us that "when sin conceives in you it brings forth sin and sin when it is finished brings forth death" Once sin conceives in a man you will act on it. It is almost impossible to stop from happening. If you desire it, and she desires it, it will happen. You became trapped in your thinking process, and stumbled in your actions, because you did not guard your heart. The flesh does not have a conscience, and it is not listed as one of the works of the flesh. As far as the flesh is concerned it is ready to go anytime. It has no restraint and never wants to stop from sinning.
All you can do it confess your sin before God and he will forgive and cleanse you from all unrighteousness. Get back up and continue your walk in faith, and stay focused on things that are above not on earth.
Thanks so much for the reply it makes me feel a lot better. I truly didnt even enjoy at all .... i dont know what came over me. The girl is very nice too and she shares similar beliefs as mine. Should I just tell her I cant hang out with her anymore or should I but not alone in any situations? I would feel bad now if she thinks I only used her for sex.
 
Thanks so much for the reply it makes me feel a lot better. I truly didnt even enjoy at all .... i dont know what came over me. The girl is very nice too and she shares similar beliefs as mine. Should I just tell her I cant hang out with her anymore or should I but not alone in any situations? I would feel bad now if she thinks I only used her for sex.
Can a man take hot coals to his bosom and not get burned? The Devil will use anybody who will let him to try and steal what you have in you. Being young physically and probably spiritually you will be playing with fire. I would stay away until you have more Wisdom in how the Devil is able to use devices, and schemes that we should not be unaware of. When you are there spiritually you see them coming from a long distance away.
 
Can a man take hot coals to his bosom and not get burned? The Devil will use anybody who will let him to try and steal what you have in you. Being young physically and probably spiritually you will be playing with fire. I would stay away until you have more Wisdom in how the Devil is able to use devices, and schemes that we should not be unaware of. When you are there spiritually you see them coming from a long distance away.
I see yea their is so much temptation at my age even my job I need to quit because of that. I just told her that I felt bad about it and I cant be doing this anymore. And she completely respected it and apologized.... Im surprised actually.
 
Thanks so much for the reply it makes me feel a lot better. I truly didnt even enjoy at all .... i dont know what came over me. The girl is very nice too and she shares similar beliefs as mine. Should I just tell her I cant hang out with her anymore or should I but not alone in any situations? I would feel bad now if she thinks I only used her for sex.

Considering she was the one that made the jump from making out to requesting sex, I would stay far away from her, unless you feel that you want to pursue a relationship with her. If you do feel that you could marry her you could pursue the relationship. I'd say serious boundaries need to be set though.

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I will pray for you. I know the situation is hard but you can make it through it. If you already asked for forgiveness Jesus has already washed it away.
 
I see yea their is so much temptation at my age even my job I need to quit because of that. I just told her that I felt bad about it and I cant be doing this anymore. And she completely respected it and apologized.... Im surprised actually.
Alang, I am amazed at your youth and having a heart for God, and wanting to please him in your life. Most guys would do anything to experience what you have. It is not an easy thing to run away from this type of temptation as our flesh wants to run towards it. I pray God to guide you in your journey to accomplish, and fulfill what the Lord has for you in this life.
 
Considering she was the one that made the jump from making out to requesting sex, I would stay far away from her, unless you feel that you want to pursue a relationship with her. If you do feel that you could marry her you could pursue the relationship. I'd say serious boundaries need to be set though.

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I will pray for you. I know the situation is hard but you can make it through it. If you already asked for forgiveness Jesus has already washed it away.
Yea bro she initiated but I didnt even hesitate which is pathetic .... I struggle with woman in sin .... alcohol drugs and all that other stuff is much easier for me to not give in to but sex is very hard my hormones are peaking at my age. Your right though ... its better for me not to even go out with girls because theirs always a chance ill end up back at their house and so on. Hope I didnt catch anything either ....my mouth feels funky =/

Thanks for the prayers bro
 
Alang, I am amazed at your youth and having a heart for God, and wanting to please him in your life. Most guys would do anything to experience what you have. It is not an easy thing to run away from this type of temptation as our flesh wants to run towards it. I pray God to guide you in your journey to accomplish, and fulfill what the Lord has for you in this life.
Thank you so much man I'm glad my parents raised me in the church pretty much or I wouldnt have these beliefs. Im not gonna go out anymore on dates. Thats the last time seriously. Putting myself in those situations is like walking into the devils hands ...
 
Thank you so much man I'm glad my parents raised me in the church pretty much or I wouldnt have these beliefs. Im not gonna go out anymore on dates. Thats the last time seriously. Putting myself in those situations is like walking into the devils hands ...
Everyone falls when we don't focus on Jesus. You may think though your failure was the act, but it started with your job. As a bouncer I'd imagine you work out, appealing to women, and maybe that's where it started. One thing is to be fit for Christ's temple (you) another is to be buff to attract others.

1 Timothy 4:8 (KJV)
For bodily exercise profiteth little: but godliness is profitable unto all things, having promise of the life that now is, and of that which is to come.

I hope you understand I'm not judging you just trying to help you understand when/how these things begin so you can learn to put up your guard against them.

Proverbs 20:1 (KJV)
Wine [is] a mocker, strong drink [is] raging: and whosoever is deceived thereby is not wise.

But what you're feeling is right out of the scriptures:

Hosea 4:11 (KJV)
Whoredom and wine and new wine take away the heart.

One doesn't need to be drunk to be led astray. I remember those painful days full of hormones and confusion as to what to do and not do. God still loves you very much and He understands. Only God can protect you, and remember:

1 Timothy 4:12 (KJV)
Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity.

God Bless brother! He is with you always, just acknowledge that when temptations arrive. :D
 
Yea bro she initiated but I didnt even hesitate which is pathetic .... I struggle with woman in sin .... alcohol drugs and all that other stuff is much easier for me to not give in to but sex is very hard my hormones are peaking at my age. Your right though ... its better for me not to even go out with girls because theirs always a chance ill end up back at their house and so on. Hope I didnt catch anything either ....my mouth feels funky =/

Thanks for the prayers bro


Ask God to forgive you and He will. Don't ever put yourself in a situation like that again since you struggle in that area. As far as catching anything... you should get an STD test to make sure, as some of the things you describe could be symptoms, but maybe you are just nervous about it so you think you feel funny? This is why God tells us not to do certain things... He is trying to protect us!! I'll say a prayer for you that you don't and that you can be stronger in this area.

Remember, God forgives!
 
Everyone falls when we don't focus on Jesus. You may think though your failure was the act, but it started with your job. As a bouncer I'd imagine you work out, appealing to women, and maybe that's where it started. One thing is to be fit for Christ's temple (you) another is to be buff to attract others.

1 Timothy 4:8 (KJV)
For bodily exercise profiteth little: but godliness is profitable unto all things, having promise of the life that now is, and of that which is to come.

I hope you understand I'm not judging you just trying to help you understand when/how these things begin so you can learn to put up your guard against them.

Proverbs 20:1 (KJV)
Wine [is] a mocker, strong drink [is] raging: and whosoever is deceived thereby is not wise.

But what you're feeling is right out of the scriptures:

Hosea 4:11 (KJV)
Whoredom and wine and new wine take away the heart.

One doesn't need to be drunk to be led astray. I remember those painful days full of hormones and confusion as to what to do and not do. God still loves you very much and He understands. Only God can protect you, and remember:

1 Timothy 4:12 (KJV)
Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity.

God Bless brother! He is with you always, just acknowledge that when temptations arrive. :D
Yea your absolutely right lately I have been feeling something missing and Im certain now is im not focusing on Jesus and focusing more on worldly things now that its summer and everyone is going crazy. I need to control myself and pray. And yes you are correct to be a bouncer you either have to have previous experience or have a muscular build to be immediately hired. Girls find it attractive but really ive noticed big changes ever since I gave my life to Christ. I did not get THAT much attention from girls before now its like I dont even have to try? Like Huntingteckel said probably the devil trying to tempt me more than anything. The thing with working out is it really keeps me away from all that bad stuff it at least gives me something to take my mind off of. Thanks for the reply man I appreciate it
 
Ask God to forgive you and He will. Don't ever put yourself in a situation like that again since you struggle in that area. As far as catching anything... you should get an STD test to make sure, as some of the things you describe could be symptoms, but maybe you are just nervous about it so you think you feel funny? This is why God tells us not to do certain things... He is trying to protect us!! I'll say a prayer for you that you don't and that you can be stronger in this area.

Remember, God forgives!
Yea Im really dumb sometimes what was I thinking walking into a girls house at 1 am lol. I felt very disgusted after I couldnt sleep all night it was that bad. Im better now though maybe that was God trying to give me a sign? I'm never going to go to her house again thats for sure. Thanks a lot for the prayers man!
 
Hey guys im a 21 year old man. I took out this chick on a date yesterday. Took her to my work (Im a bouncer at a bar and club) prob not the best place for a Christian to work but im looking for a new job. Anyways I only had one little drink didnt alter my judgement at all. First drink I've had in almost a year too. She drank 3 drinks and thats when I stopped her and said no more your alrdy drunk. I didn't even think 3 drinks would get her drunk but she also never drinks so her tolerance was weak. Anyways we go walk around and talk. I talk to her about Jesus and she said she goes to church and youth group and she trys to help out homeless. I Was really impressed. Didnt think I would hear that from her. Anyways we started kissing and stuff. And I tell her its getting late let me drop you back off. We get to her house and she asks me to walk her to her door. She than asks me to come in and this is where I messed up big time. Walk in and go sit on the couch. She said shes gonna change clothes. Calls my name and tells me to come to her room. Go to her room and shes completely naked. I couldnt control myself after that.... my will power is so weak when it comes to woman. Than we had sex.... I feel so horrible. When I got home I felt nauseous and had a high fever and a bad headache. I think the lord was trying to tell me what I did was wrong. Man guys I feel so bad the guilt is eating me up.... I already repented but I feel like crap because I Intentionally did it. Can you guys please pray for me

Public repentance among Christians is good. Kudos to you!

On the one hand your intentions were good, noble and innocent but on the other hand you were a naïve and dumb Christian. Kick yourself hard and don't repeat this. Alone with the opposite sex after sharing deep spiritual truth = temptation at the highest level imho.
 
Thanks so much for the reply it makes me feel a lot better. I truly didnt even enjoy at all .... i dont know what came over me. The girl is very nice too and she shares similar beliefs as mine. Should I just tell her I cant hang out with her anymore or should I but not alone in any situations? I would feel bad now if she thinks I only used her for sex.
I wouldn't say you can't date her. Obviously there is attraction between you two. What you did was just very disrespectful to God. So just both repent and agree to a ground rule that you both stick to.
 
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