I dated girls, but it was to just to find out more about them for the purpose of finding a wife. I kept my hands and lips to myself. However, after writing to my wife for almost a year, I flew out to her home on the other side of the world to court her and marry her. I felt in my heart that I wanted her and knew her. I kissed her. I did feel guilty of lusting for her. I wanted to marry her quickly, for our passion in this courting process was high. We decided to not have intercourse, but wait until marriage. We did wait. My visit was only about 19 days there in the Philippines. We corresponded later by texting, emails, webcam, phone calls and letters for about 9 months until she was accepted through a Fiancée Visa through the US Embassy in Manila to come to the USA to marry me. Our communication was romantic, but not sexual in tone, as best as I can remember. We got married in the middle of my harvest season, less then 10 days after she came to the US. I didn't want to take the chance and try to wait till the end of the harvest season as to have a big wedding. We had a very simple wedding across the border. I love her very much. I thank God for her in my life.
I would advise, even if you knew that you were to marry a girl, to not kiss, at least very much. My wife and myself regarded our waiting until marriage for intercourse as very important. If I knew what passions could be inflamed by just kissing, I would have held back.
You can find the right person, even while courting, and re-frame from passionate kissing, but part of courting is to communicate that you chose her over all others. That communication is best done with a G rating and somehow supervised as well or don't find yourself totally alone with her, or you take the chance of going into lust and deep passion for one another.
God knows our hearts. We trust his judgment. We confess ourselves before him. Our first son was conceived within a week of our marriage. Though the courting of humans is a forest, the intentions of the hearts must try to traverse it for the purpose of marriage; filling the longings admittedly within us. We do not want Satan to get the upper hand in our lives, by trying to be who we aren't (for many us this would be celibate our entire lives). Our passions for each of us runs uniquely different. It is best to have marriage if they are high. I definitely wanted to marry. God uses married people as well as unmarried for his Gospel to the world through Christ. Have a great day.