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08-02-2007, 11:46 AM
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Shortly after I got saved God began to deal with me about apologizing to people. He would instruct me to apologize to people when I wasn’t even wrong. I became very frustrated. I couldn’t understand why I was the one who always had to make the apology. This is what God has helped me understand . . .
When we realize we have offended someone we should apologize; even if we didn’t mean to offend; and even if we didn’t do anything wrong. He showed me that as a Christian we should be the bigger person and do everything within our power to reconcile with the person we offended. If the person is still offended after we do all we can do to make things right, then “let him be to you like a heathen and a tax collector” (Matthew 18:15-17). As Christians I believe we should talk to people and be open and honest with them about offenses. We should give them the benefit of the doubt without passing judgment or making assumptions when we don’t know all the facts. Making assumptions without knowing the whole story usually leads to false assumptions, and false assumptions usually lead to more offense and more hurt feelings. “Judge not that you be not judged. For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you”(Matthew 7:1). NKJV PRIDE says it does matter who’s right. UNCONDITIONAL LOVE says it doesn’t matter who’s right. All that matters is that we reconcile the offense without judgment or condemnation. “Therefore you are inexcusable, O man, whoever you are who judge, for in whatever you judge another you condemn yourself; for you who judge practice the same things”(Romans 2:1). NKJV So, my conclusion is that I believe what a friend told me once, “It is better to be reconciled than to be right.”  
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08-03-2007, 09:52 PM
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InHisLove,
I follow your reasoning. But are we prideful by declaring we will apologize even if we are not wrong? would just by declaring "we are not wrong" indicate we may not have all the facts. Can we every know if we are in the right or in the wrong? If a little boy does not listen to his mother on how to care for his toy and he immediately plays with it in the wrong way and brakes it is he responsible for instructions he does not remember or refused to listen to? Are we responsible for sin we may have caused without realizing we have violated Scripture we didn't bother to read or have not made an effort to understand. Of course not everyone who is offended is due to our "sin" but can we ever really know? Better to respond in humility and seek forgiveness because we may have been wrong. (OK sounds like semantics here, but I like "in case we were wrong" better than "even when we are not wrong." |
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08-03-2007, 10:51 PM
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Mark,
You make some very good points, however my point is that we should not allow an offense to continue; whether we offended someone or someone offended us. Ephesians 5:26, "Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath."
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