Originally Posted by Mellow

That is true, we are suppose to forgive up to as many times infinity. But a spouse cheating continuously is not suppose to be forgiven infinity times. Like you said sometimes we are not responsible for the persons actions, and if needed we then should move on. That was what I was implying.

Originally Posted by Mellow

From personal opinion and also what God tells us is to give another person three strikes before leaving them alone. If someone you are with you suspect of cheating on you, you should be forgiving only up to three times.

Nobody likes to bud into your life when things are going wrong for you, since you said you are being attacked for being a liar. It seems the only time they do it is when you really are doing something wrong. Then people really love making a big scene and gossip about it. Because they are thankful that it wasn't them.

In other words, if someone is hurting you and saying things about you, expect no response from anybody. A lot of people don't have pity for good people.

Originally Posted by Ramsey

Mellow the first time I read that three Strikes you're out, I understood it the way you wanted us to understand, with adultery or big lies and such, not with small mistakes such as saying something bad or something that is easily forgivable with gentle rebuking.
But I can also understand how they did not understand, the phrasing wasn't the best :P or maybe putting more examples and details, but still you are right, Imagine your spouse committing adultery twice and you're still letting her remain with you lol. Of course we forgive even after 10 times but she would be out by the first time. Adultery is no joke, loss of trust and it breaks families.

Originally Posted by Dusty

Mellow ,

I am sorry if I misinterpreted the" three strikes your out "phrase and that is why sometimes it is hard when you are not talking personally to the person. By all means when it comes to adultery , yes I could not tolerate that either. But in that case like others I would have to say three times is over the top. Sorry for the mixup . Please accept my apologies.

Originally Posted by Ramsey

That is true. but it is just scary that your spouse commits adultery.. The trust issues and so forth.. it would hurt so much also. So a second chance for adultery, TO ME, is a no! never! I'd rather live for Christ single than to accept my wife cheating on me once (that's if I get married xD ).

In the OT adulterous women got stoned to death. I can understand why, God wanted a clean environment so that it doesn't spread. The believing Jewish cared about how their town was free from these things more than this generation.