IHeartLarrytheCucumber

I was talking this over with a few people in my church family, and one lady said that she didn't think online dating was the way God intended. That got me to thinking, and I was wondering what you all thought?

I'm thinking of joining a dating site. I said a short prayer about it. I want to make sure it's in God's will, but I don't know how to recognize His answer.

Any insight would be appreciated. Thanks brothers and sisters.

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SweetSurrender

I don't think I'd be trusting enough. Don't you think it would be a draw for someone who is not a Christian to pretend to be one in order to find some trusting, unsuspecting sweet thing to take advantage of?

Do you live in a small town and there are few choices or something? It does sound like a fun thing to do, but you would have to meet this person eventually and that would be the scarey part. One thing for sure is not to share phone number or addresses. Of course I am a mother and am a lot more cautious than some.

You will do what you want to do anyway, but if I were you, I'd pray about it. Good luck! Bonnie

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Who am I

I don’t think it’s a bad thing, but as Bonnie said, be cautious. There are a lot of dishonest people out there.

I met a woman on a Christian singles site. She was about to give up and then I sent her a message. We finally met and dated for a few months. She made a few mistakes. Her first mistake was sending me an email with her last name and the town she lived in. If you register your full name on your email, most will send your full name with the email in the “from” line. That’s not good. I knew the town she lived in and her last name. I did a quick search and found her address and phone number. I sent an email back and let her know what I did and how easy and quick it was and lovingly scolded her and told her to never do that again to anyone. If you give your phone number, they can also do a quick reverse number lookup and get your address. It only takes a couple minutes.

If you do decide to try a Christian singles site and decide to meet someone, do it on your terms. You pick the place, (public with lots of people), the day and time. (daylight would be best) And have a friend with good discernment show up early and just be there in the background to see everything that happens. You should also show up early, and if you drive, let him leave first so he doesn’t see what you are driving.

This may seem overly cautious on the surface, but there are a lot of sick people out there and they walk among us daily. You can’t tell who they are just by looking at them or talking to them.

Be careful and God bless
Dean

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Blessings to all

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD,
thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.

SweetSurrender

I think the best Christian online dating is called e-Harmony.

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Banarenth

Aren't you a bit young to be giving up on real people?

Actually, I checked one out for a while out of curiosity once. Never contacted anyone, but once I did see a girl I knew and was pretty much utterly repulsed by that it tried to match me with I deleted my account forever.

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Jasher

The guy my sister remarried was found on a Christian dating site in just a matter of two weeks. It has worked out fine as they now have been married about six years.

Caution is the word over the net because if people aren't honest it can lead to severe problems. I keep telling my sons - if you want to bag a gazelle you must go to where the watering hole is. Church for example.

Larry

NearertoGod

Dean gave some wonderful advice:

You should be cautious if you are considering online-dating. You can never know whose on the other side of the screen, and sometimes I say you have to have a really good vibe on people if you're really, seriously thinking about doing dating through the internet.

It is so easy now-a-days to get pictures of other on Google, make up a false name, address, telephone number, etc etc and deceive people. Or, even act like one person online, and a completely different person in the real life. That two-sided thing is what I call "multiple internet personalities" .

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Nature is God's gift to us. He loves it as much as He loves us, and we should give respect to Nature because believe it or not - it takes care of me and you more than you know.

Kazuhiro

I'm guilty of "Multiple Internet Personality Disorder." In spades. Just saying.

IHeartLarrytheCucumber

Thanks for the caring responds! It's just really hard now-a-days to find nice Christian young men. All the young men I know party and drink. And there's not much to choose from at my church!

And when I pray about it, I'm so not sure how to hear God's voice telling me yes or no. I mean, I could say I feel 'led' to try online dating, cause in reality I do. But...I don't know if that's God or not. Whatever God tells me to do I'll do. I just, don't know what He's telling me.

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Banarenth

I've tried finding girls on my own, they never turn out so wonderful. But, when I get tempted, I always ask myself, do I want the type of person that I would settle for (because that's what I would be doing), or do I want to find that girl that God is preparing for me. What if I'm going out with someone I've settled for when this girl shows up in my life? It's hard to be alone, but it's far worse to be with the wrong person, even if you don't realize it yet. Beleive me, I understand. I'm still pretty goth, and I go to a hillbilly church. The only girl in that entire church that even remotely looks like my "type" is like 14 or something. For me to look there for a girl, is not only like looking for a needle in a hay stack, it's more like looking for a needle in the WRONG hay stack. But I trust God. When I'm ready, and when she's ready, he'll bring us together. Anything I do will only delay His plan.

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