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03-26-2008, 04:37 AM
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Be transparent before God, He sees right thru you, anyway! http://www.likepreciousfaith.org/testimony_val.htm Please pray for your local emergency responders, daily. |
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03-26-2008, 05:55 AM
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Patience. My husband's virtue is patience, which he did not have when our children were young. He had to develope it. He is so patient when I am reading the Bible and he is watching a movie or reading a book, and I find some scripture I need to share with someone on the forum.
I jump up and say, Oh, this is what I was looking for! I say I'll be right back. But he knows better I think. He doesn't say anything, even tho he doesn't share my enthusiasm for these things. He just comes up after an hour of my being online and says he's glad I'm happy and kisses me goodnight. So tomorrow, my day off, if I don't log on, you'll understand that I'm spending the day with my wonderful buddy. Good night, Bonnie |
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03-26-2008, 11:54 AM
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You people need to count your blessings. To have a great spouse is one of the greatest blessings you can have. I should know because I don't. I have a spouse with OCPD, not OCD. I have accepted that this may be my cross to bear.
My spouse is controling, painfully detailed, self rightous, can do no wrong, yet finds errors in everything I do. This isn't an exaduration. There are so many double standards I could never list them all. My spouse is Christian but with any message we listen to or they listen to they will see how the message was speaking directly to me and my many, many, faults. So count your blessings |
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03-26-2008, 03:35 PM
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The only answer to that, my friend, is prayer, prayer and more prayer. And be humble about it. Even fasting, which I have never done, would be good. But, all in secret so that it could never be construed to her as a negative towards her. It will put a glow on your countenance and she will see a difference in you. And never talk about others to her. Don't take up her habits.
One other thing, stay in the Word. Read it all the time and it will renew your mind and give you the energy you need to survive in this hostile environment. I will pray with you, friend, that God will strengthen you and you will find new ways to communicate God's love to your spouse.  Last edited by SweetSurrender; 03-27-2008 at 04:21 AM. |
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03-26-2008, 03:59 PM
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My DH Ed taught me how to think for myself...He taught me how to love myself for who I am, not what others think of me. He has been my constant friend for 18 years, supporting me and accepting me with all of my flaws. I am a stronger person because of him. I thank God daily for the gift He gave me in my husband.
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Some people you can never please*You might as well just let them be*They mock everything not their own*From their imaginary throne*But I won't bow down*even if the whole world thinks I'm crazy*So hey hey, this song is for us*So put your hands in the air*if you're crazy like us Hey hey*Hey hey, that's freedom you hear*Comin' right to your ear*that's the sound from our bus Hey hey*Why try to be like someone else*When you can only be yourself?*No one can sing the song you do*Be true, be legendary you*So I won't sell out*even if the whole world thinks I'm crazy*Why kiss the feet of the*people who kick you*When you can be anything that you want to?
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03-26-2008, 04:06 PM
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Yellowjacket..... I would add to the mix like Bonnie has said ..... PRAYER is the key and although you cannot change your spouse...... God can change your heart.and your attitude. Just remember and thank God that your spouse is a Christian. Many people live with unsaved abusive spouses and that is even more difficult as I did for 20 yrs. What I am saying is that we can always find the negative, but it is the positive that we must focus on.
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03-26-2008, 04:14 PM
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God gave him to you, and you to him...for what purpose? This is the question that needs answered...
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Some people you can never please*You might as well just let them be*They mock everything not their own*From their imaginary throne*But I won't bow down*even if the whole world thinks I'm crazy*So hey hey, this song is for us*So put your hands in the air*if you're crazy like us Hey hey*Hey hey, that's freedom you hear*Comin' right to your ear*that's the sound from our bus Hey hey*Why try to be like someone else*When you can only be yourself?*No one can sing the song you do*Be true, be legendary you*So I won't sell out*even if the whole world thinks I'm crazy*Why kiss the feet of the*people who kick you*When you can be anything that you want to?
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03-26-2008, 04:52 PM
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My spouse is learning to place God above all others...including me!
My spouse was sent to me in an answer to a heartfelt prayer, after many, many years of being lonely.  My spouse sees the world through the eyes of a child...all things are new. My spouse has a heart of gold and doesn't like to see anybody hurt. My spouse is always happy to see me when I get home. And vice-versa. 
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03-28-2008, 04:23 PM
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In the book "Created To Be His Helpmeet" there are three different types of men listed. One of them is Mr. Command Man. This is a bold, authoritative man that is a natural leader. Everyone instinctively looks up to him and listens to him. He is a decision maker. He can also be a perfectionist and expect others to hold to the same perfectionism. Not to demean someone, but because he thinks that everyone is like that.
This is my husband. Mr. Command man. He is looked up to by our community, our fire fighters listen to him and follows his commands, he is a natural leader and a decisive man. He is also a genius. He can learn something thoroughly and remember it. Always. Why, do you know I was married to him for 8 years before I found out he could play the piano???
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Be transparent before God, He sees right thru you, anyway! http://www.likepreciousfaith.org/testimony_val.htm Please pray for your local emergency responders, daily. |
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03-28-2008, 04:28 PM
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Hey, Yellowjacket. I know what OCD is, but what is OCPD?
I am sorry to hear about your struggles with your spouse. I know it is difficult. For the longest time, I could have written what you did about my hubby. But I held in there, and we worked thru it, and I finally started seeing the good things in him. I had to struggle to find even one good thing to say about my hubby. But after that, the next one got easier and the next and the next. And soon, my perception changed. And after that, how I responded to him changed, and then HE changed! So hang in there, Yellowjacket. Even if your spouse does not respond, God will honor YOU for honoring your spouse.
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Be transparent before God, He sees right thru you, anyway! http://www.likepreciousfaith.org/testimony_val.htm Please pray for your local emergency responders, daily. |
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