Yvo

Thanks, Mark! We have purchased the book and will give that a try

Bassmasa

Yvo,

I've been in the exact situation your boyfriend is in right now. He wants to quit, but can't control anything on his own. No man can...it's impossible on our own. But, if He learns to rely on the Holy Spirit, he can learn to live sexually pure.

He can be as open and honest with you as possible, but he needs a male accountability partner. Some parts of this struggle are so male-oriented that no woman can truly understand this battle. This is nothing against you personally, please don't take it that way, it's just like there are plenty of emotional issues a fellow sister can understand in ways we men cannot. I urge him to check out some other forums if he's not interested in finding a local support group, he needs to find somewhere to share the struggle with others. We can't post links here, but just Google "Every Man's Battle" and you'll find plenty.

I'm leading a study of "Every Man's Battle" in my church right now and am going through it myself for the second time. It's so enlightening and from the perspective of men that have "been there and done that". The effect it's had on me is remarkable and I can see God at work in the lives of other men in the group. I encourage you to read it with him.

One word or warning though...discussing sexual issues in detail before marriage, no matter how pure the motives, can lead to awfully tempting situations. Be sure not to tread into waters that can lead to sexual sin of another sort...this is another reason that he really needs a male to discuss things with.

Good luck and God bless.

JesusReignsForever

If there is a will there is a way...Nowadays you cant really hide children or teens from porn..unless...you throw out the tv and computer homeschool them and never bring them into public. No friends or phone calls either..and you and the wife will have to rent a hotel on the other side of town..when the time comes for "action". That is the only way you can sheild you child or teen from porn..it is everywhere!!! What I would do if I (hopefully) not even became a parent (cringe!) I would let them know what God says about sex... and let God take care of the rest... the bible says..

Proverbs 22:6
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

and for me personally at 22 yrs of age that statement is SO TRUE!..Parents job is to get the word of God in these children and no mattter how much they may run they can get away. God has them locked and sealed!

hope i was helpful!

MartyLK

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JesusReignsForever

I mean that if you train up a child from birth through lets say 18 in the church,sunday school, choir, reading the word of God to them, teach them how to pray and get in contact witht he Lord, living a Godly life. Those are the basic survival skills spiritually speaking. If you have the word of God in your heart from a child to 18, you are well grounded.

What I mean by being locked and sealed... is that no one is accidentally raised in a christian heritage we all have our specific job to do for our lord. Even when you move out at 19 and try to run from God...not submitting to him rebelling,doing everything contrary to what you know is right because of your training from birth-18 you will eventually come back to christ! Jesus is all you know..it is so grounded in you people notice the differerance about you, you just cant hide from God he will expose you to the enemy in order to let you know... this is not where you belong.

Which is why I say you are locked and sealed....make better sense?

If you are asking where I come up with this..it is because this child I am talking about is exactly who I was..the rebellion child I ran for a while but eventually I had no choice but to come back to Jesus he is all I know!

Hope you get what I mean!

Much love,
Caresse

MartyLK

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