Leaving the house - Page 2

Fluffy · 05-16-2008, 05:59 AM

How exciting! Moving out on your own, with your own little cottage and everything! This is a great time for you!
I know it is scary. You are responsible for yourself now. You have to make the decisions. But you are on your way! The first major one was deciding to move out. The next was seeing how God continues to care for you. Hallelujah!

My two daughters moved out after getting married. It just happened that way. My son moved out on his own before he married. But I missed them, terribly! I cried very hard when the first one moved out. Its hard to cut the apron strings (this is a saying that means the children used to hang onto the strings of your apron, needing you for everything. But you've cut the strings and now they have to be dependent on themselves. ((just in case you havent heard of this saying before)) )
Sometimes, parents have a hard time letting go. They feel like they must give advice, make suggestions, question...not because they doubt your ability to take care of yourself. Its their way of showing they love you, your still their daughter and they are concerned for you. I have grandchildren now, and my mother is still trying to 'mother' me! ha! But I let her because I know its something she needs to do.
Be patient with your parents, and try reassure them as much as possible. They will still worry about you, but that's ok! It will get better!

Johana · 05-20-2008, 11:58 AM

Dear Fluffy,
thank you very much. It has a great value to see it by eyes of a parent. God bless you in everything you need,
Johana

Rumely · 06-09-2008, 08:10 AM

I lost weight when I first moved from home at 18 because I hadn't learned much about cooking and I was exceedingly stingy with my food budget. I don't know how it is in your country, but most Americans will be apalled to learn that I didn't even know how to make mac-and-cheese.

I had some nice roommates and some not so nice. You learn, you grow, you laugh about it in later years. What is life without stories to tell?

Jon-Marc · 06-09-2008, 06:57 PM

I knew nothing about cooking or even washing my own clothes when I moved out on my own after high school, but you eventually learn from trial and error--mostly error.

kipferg · 06-18-2008, 04:06 PM

What a brave decision you have made. It sounds like me 20 years ago. At 20 I moved out and moved 1,000 miles away from my parents with whom I was very close. It was hard and I second guessed myself many times. 20 years later I realized it was the best decision for me. I grew up quickly and would not trade that decision for anything.

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