Mark

A question posted on dittytalk.com:
I have a 15yo daughter who will be 16 in January, and she is SOOOO dramatic! Sometimes it worries me that she feels she has to exaggerate everything in her life to get attention, and she doesn't realize that sometimes the things she exaggerates makes her look bad!
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Anybody have any thoughts on that one?

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Mark Strohm, Jr.
Thrifty Times

bworthey

Mark -

I can't say that my daughter does that, since I don't have kids of my own, but I am a counselor who works with families and would have to say from experience that this is probably appropriate. I would ask though what is she exaggerating? Not that I'm asking you to post it here, but just to think about it. Hope that helps!

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Chere1

Hi Mark,

Just wanted to let you know that YES, my 16 year old daughter does this. She also has a highly sensitive personality (ever read about HSP?), and a lot of things bother her. My older daughter is not like this at all, but she also has a completely different, laid back personality.

Chere

AshBeanNun

I'm a teenager myself so I'd be careful not to judge her. It's really easy to forget how tough school is, especially in middle school and early high shcool when everything is ruled by cliques. She may be exaggerating, but it's not the exaggeration that should be concentrated on, it's the cause of the exaggeration. Ragging on her for being dramatic won't help, that's for sure!

cameegirl

My daughter is 15 1/2 and she too has a hyper-sensitive personality. Everything lately has been a struggle with her. As her mom...she is ALOT like I was when I was a child. Im struggling with this also. I pray for patience, for a bit in my mouth, good actions and to listen with open ears and to not just yell back in anger. Its been helping me; but I have had to give her personality to God. I told him I couldnt handle it and pray He will change her.

I know what you are going through. Any prayers would be welcomed!

(PS I am new here today! Glad I found this site!)

Cam

Theophilus

It is somewhere in the teen years that daddies little princess morphs into a drama Queen. I went through it with my two daughters and now with my oldest grand daughter.
It appears to come on with puberty and often continues until the parents are nearly or literaly insane.
Not realy but I'm sure from my own experience that when were in the middle of it it certianly seems that way.
The good new is that when they grow up get married and have children of their own they will get a taste of what your going through now.
In their defence teens, both boys and girls are dealing with concepts precepts and mental and phyisical changes, desires and responcibilities that there is no way they or we can be prepared for. It is something that each and every one of us either have experienced or will experience.

What can we do about it??????
As calmly and sincerely keep repeating the sound advice and expressing the same love for them as we always have.
Remain the constant, the rock, the light house for them while they are in stormy seas. Keep the door open, the light on no matter how much they assure you they don't want or need it. Keep the lines open and the power on. But give them the freedom to learn for themselves that mom and dad are not as crazy or stuped as they seem during these times.
Never stop being their parent!!! Don't try to be their freind. Freinds they have and can get. Guidence and dicipline of a parent though they resist as vampire does the light of day is what they need and desreve from us.
Besides a 40 year old man dressed "goth" and hanging out with teens is simply hidious. Moms!! If your going to dress alike for any reason do so by your standard not theirs.
And most importantly teach them from early childhood that there is one who watches over them, who cares for them as much if not more than we can. One that is with them no matter were they are.
Christ Jesus,

adoptivemommy

Hi!
I don't have teenagers, but I do have 2 daughters who will someday be teenagers. I have to say that I really like what AshBeanNun said. It shows a real level of maturity and understanding. Obviously, not being a teenager mom, I can't offer a lot of advice except to say that finding out the reason behind the behaviour seems like a really good idea. I think sometimes all of us can forget that no matter how silly or unnecesessary someone's feelings seem to be to us, to them they are important and ignoring or minimizing their feelings just makes them even more angry. I can suggest a web site, "Joycemeyer.org". She has a lot of resources for dealing with teenagers, which are, I think very good.

Laura

Boanerges

I thought it was a natural occurance for teenage girls to be very dramatic they are it seems by nature quite expressive