Dating And Relationship! Urgent

gerry4 · 11-29-2007, 08:33 AM

Ever since i came to college i became we can say "less of a christian" than when i was back home. i dont have a church, most of my friends are not christian, my parents are far, etc. i am still a believer, try to go to church, pray, read the bible, etc but i feel far away.
for a few months i;ve been dating this guy which is not christian. he is hindu. i dont knw wht i shd do cause my feelings are already really strong for this guy.
i need advice about continuing, stopping, or what...
im lost and odnt know what to do

Ausgirl · 11-29-2007, 10:15 AM

Darling, My advice would be this -
1. Break off the relationship - the bible is very clear about not being unequally yoked - meaning, not joining a relationship with anyone who is not a christian - you may think you are in love with him, but it is not in your est interests to develop a relationship with him.
2. Get yourself with a christian group, you know it's not wrong to mix with non christians -IF you are a strong christian yourself, BUT you need to spend alot of time with christians, stuff rubs off when you're with a group of people, however you want to make sure it's the right kind of stuff - good christian stuff - not wordly stuff.
Surely your college would have a number of chrisitan clubs or whatever, that's the first place to start.
3. Don't dispare over the guy you're seeing now - does he know you're a christian, is he at all interested in finding out more about your religion - perhaps you could remain friendly if he is interested in seeking the truth and who knows what God could have in store for you.
4. Pray, seek out God's wisdom in the situation, you will know in your heart what is right, I believe you already do because you are on here asking us for advice.

Boanerges · 11-29-2007, 12:21 PM

Amen AG!

u ne la nv i u we tsi · 12-04-2007, 05:12 AM

I am in similar situation... well kinda. I was deeply in love before I became a Christian and I stayed in love after. I never dated the girl of which I loved because I knew that she did not allow Christ in her heart. She has confessed feelings for me over a year ago but I had to reject her. She knows how I feel though and has claimed she would wait until it was possible for us to be together, even if it never comes. She still has yet to be with anyone else and I still have very strong feelings towards her. There is no way to convert her, she is very strong in her faith as I am very strong in mine. Though we love each other it is just not possible for it to work out since are paths are separate. I doubt I will ever love another with the feelings I have for her, and it doesn't seem like she will be leaving my life anytime soon. I love her deeply and I do not feel like I will ever go with anyone else because of how strong my attraction is. Since she is unwilling to accept the truth of Christ, I will never be with her either.

LivingWaters · 12-04-2007, 12:34 PM

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Originally Posted by u ne la nv i u we tsi

I was once in similar situation. I was deeply in love before I became a Christian and I stayed in love after. I never dated the girl of which I loved because I knew that she did not allow Christ in her heart. She has confessed feelings for me over a year ago but I had to reject her. She knows how I feel though and has claimed she would wait until it was possible for us to be together, even if it never comes. She still has yet to be with anyone else and I still have very strong feelings towards her. There is no way to convert her, she is very strong in her faith as I am very strong in mine. Though we love each other it is just not possible for it to work out since are paths are separate. I doubt I will ever love another with the feelings I have for her, and it doesn't seem like she will be leaving my life anytime soon. I love her deeply and I do not feel like I will ever go with anyone else because of how strong my attraction is. Since she is unwilling to accept the truth of Christ, I will never be with her either.

Never say never! Of course she can be brought to Christ! Trust me, you may say that you will never love another like that, but you don't know what love is until God places your wife in front of you. What a good and perfect gift that is!

Boanerges · 12-04-2007, 01:06 PM

Agreed. I was yong and in love and when I lost that love I thought I would die. Later when I met the woman God had for me I realized what a blessing it was to loose that other girl. If we ahd stayed togeather I would have missed the best God had in store for me.
And as far as salvation I also agree, never give up- God can break any hard heart.
I pray God's will in your life u ne la nv i u we tsi

mikeOfChrist · 12-13-2007, 09:58 AM

It's simple, our old sin-flesh-nature, wants to party, and
have fun, and will try and draw You to bad relationships,
and decisions. So pray to surrender, in deeper
commitment, and dedication, and Thanksgiving, and Love,
to God, and let God provide the comfort and Joy, in
providing the right people for You, in Your life.

Draw near to Christ, and regard him, as Your Friend, as
well as Savior, and God in the 2nd Person of the Trinity.
Have private conversations with Vhrist, as Your friend,
and tell Him Your feelings, and ask How His Day has been
going, ( even though it is more of a faith conversation, but
Christ will let You know He apreciates You drawing closer
to Him ). And Talk to God the Father, as Your Loving
Father, who Loves and cares about You.

May God Bless You in Your need to draw closer to Him, as
Your Friend, and Family, as well as Your God, and Savior, Amen

Johana · 02-11-2008, 11:11 AM

Dear Gerry4,
I have once heard very cutting edge similie about going out with non-christian.
We as a Christians know, that we are right. We are stronger in a spiritual world. But lookin around in the world we see now, all the vulgar magazines, smoking, drunkness... we do not have any steadfast background here. Non-belivers do.
It is like if you were an ant, standing on the table and you reached your hand for an elephant standing at the ground to pull him up to you. The elephant is the guy you were meeting. He has got bigge background here... It is dangerous for you.
I absolutely agree with Ausgirl.

Let God grant you the serenity
to except the things you cannot change
The courage to change the things
you can
The wisdom
to know the difference

ExCordeChristi · 03-17-2008, 04:10 PM

I have been there.

I know how difficult it is to date someone who is not of your beliefs. I was in a relationship for 8 months, which I broke off last month, simply because we were too different (among other things). It causes so many problems.

I think you should pray about what God would want you to do. Perhaps he will convert to Christianity. Perhaps not. Just pray that you will put God first, trust in Him, and put this entire relationship in His hands.
As for being "less Christian", if you have a campus Christian group, you should join that. It will help your faith to grow if you are surrounded by other Christians trying to keep the faith. I know how hard it is to keep faith in college.

Riddler_This · 04-10-2008, 05:34 PM

Read Romans! You don't have to dump this b/f of yours who is Hindu. It is not against God to date someone of a different faith, it is now your choice!

11-29-2007, 08:33 AM	#1 (permalink)
gerry4 Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: boston Posts: 1 Rep Power: 0	Dating And Relationship! Urgent Ever since i came to college i became we can say "less of a christian" than when i was back home. i dont have a church, most of my friends are not christian, my parents are far, etc. i am still a believer, try to go to church, pray, read the bible, etc but i feel far away. for a few months i;ve been dating this guy which is not christian. he is hindu. i dont knw wht i shd do cause my feelings are already really strong for this guy. i need advice about continuing, stopping, or what... im lost and odnt know what to do

12-04-2007, 05:12 AM	#4 (permalink)
u ne la nv i u we tsi Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: United States Posts: 30 Rep Power: 0	I am in similar situation... well kinda. I was deeply in love before I became a Christian and I stayed in love after. I never dated the girl of which I loved because I knew that she did not allow Christ in her heart. She has confessed feelings for me over a year ago but I had to reject her. She knows how I feel though and has claimed she would wait until it was possible for us to be together, even if it never comes. She still has yet to be with anyone else and I still have very strong feelings towards her. There is no way to convert her, she is very strong in her faith as I am very strong in mine. Though we love each other it is just not possible for it to work out since are paths are separate. I doubt I will ever love another with the feelings I have for her, and it doesn't seem like she will be leaving my life anytime soon. I love her deeply and I do not feel like I will ever go with anyone else because of how strong my attraction is. Since she is unwilling to accept the truth of Christ, I will never be with her either. __________________ They sung the song of the true faith because they knew it was the right one. The song was new to them, but they sung it even as they were forced to march out of the lands that God had put them on. Last edited by u ne la nv i u we tsi; 12-04-2007 at 08:47 PM.

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Riddler_This Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Great Falls/Butte Posts: 20 Rep Power: 0	No worries! Read Romans! You don't have to dump this b/f of yours who is Hindu. It is not against God to date someone of a different faith, it is now your choice!

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11-29-2007, 10:15 AM	#2 (permalink)
Ausgirl Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Queensland Australia Posts: 171 Rep Power: 1	Darling, My advice would be this - 1. Break off the relationship - the bible is very clear about not being unequally yoked - meaning, not joining a relationship with anyone who is not a christian - you may think you are in love with him, but it is not in your est interests to develop a relationship with him. 2. Get yourself with a christian group, you know it's not wrong to mix with non christians -IF you are a strong christian yourself, BUT you need to spend alot of time with christians, stuff rubs off when you're with a group of people, however you want to make sure it's the right kind of stuff - good christian stuff - not wordly stuff. Surely your college would have a number of chrisitan clubs or whatever, that's the first place to start. 3. Don't dispare over the guy you're seeing now - does he know you're a christian, is he at all interested in finding out more about your religion - perhaps you could remain friendly if he is interested in seeking the truth and who knows what God could have in store for you. 4. Pray, seek out God's wisdom in the situation, you will know in your heart what is right, I believe you already do because you are on here asking us for advice.

11-29-2007, 12:21 PM	#3 (permalink)
Boanerges Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: St Rose LA Posts: 14,631 Blog Entries: 3 Rep Power: 16	Amen AG!

12-04-2007, 01:06 PM	#6 (permalink)
Boanerges Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: St Rose LA Posts: 14,631 Blog Entries: 3 Rep Power: 16	Agreed. I was yong and in love and when I lost that love I thought I would die. Later when I met the woman God had for me I realized what a blessing it was to loose that other girl. If we ahd stayed togeather I would have missed the best God had in store for me. And as far as salvation I also agree, never give up- God can break any hard heart. I pray God's will in your life u ne la nv i u we tsi

12-13-2007, 09:58 AM	#7 (permalink)
mikeOfChrist Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: NJ Posts: 402 Rep Power: 1	It's simple, our old sin-flesh-nature, wants to party, and have fun, and will try and draw You to bad relationships, and decisions. So pray to surrender, in deeper commitment, and dedication, and Thanksgiving, and Love, to God, and let God provide the comfort and Joy, in providing the right people for You, in Your life. Draw near to Christ, and regard him, as Your Friend, as well as Savior, and God in the 2nd Person of the Trinity. Have private conversations with Vhrist, as Your friend, and tell Him Your feelings, and ask How His Day has been going, ( even though it is more of a faith conversation, but Christ will let You know He apreciates You drawing closer to Him ). And Talk to God the Father, as Your Loving Father, who Loves and cares about You. May God Bless You in Your need to draw closer to Him, as Your Friend, and Family, as well as Your God, and Savior, Amen

02-11-2008, 11:11 AM	#8 (permalink)
Johana Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Prague Posts: 22 Rep Power: 0	Dear Gerry4, I have once heard very cutting edge similie about going out with non-christian. We as a Christians know, that we are right. We are stronger in a spiritual world. But lookin around in the world we see now, all the vulgar magazines, smoking, drunkness... we do not have any steadfast background here. Non-belivers do. It is like if you were an ant, standing on the table and you reached your hand for an elephant standing at the ground to pull him up to you. The elephant is the guy you were meeting. He has got bigge background here... It is dangerous for you. I absolutely agree with Ausgirl. Let God grant you the serenity to except the things you cannot change The courage to change the things you can The wisdom to know the difference

03-17-2008, 04:10 PM	#9 (permalink)
ExCordeChristi Former Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: New Jersey Posts: 104 Blog Entries: 2 Rep Power: 0	I have been there. I know how difficult it is to date someone who is not of your beliefs. I was in a relationship for 8 months, which I broke off last month, simply because we were too different (among other things). It causes so many problems. I think you should pray about what God would want you to do. Perhaps he will convert to Christianity. Perhaps not. Just pray that you will put God first, trust in Him, and put this entire relationship in His hands. As for being "less Christian", if you have a campus Christian group, you should join that. It will help your faith to grow if you are surrounded by other Christians trying to keep the faith. I know how hard it is to keep faith in college.