adonaicole

Ha, ha... Boanerges, you made me laugh so hard with this one.

I agree spanking used right can be a useful tool in education. In this case, I don't think spanking is the answer because you're not in a position to apply discipline, you can apply love. Pray for him, faithfully, fast and pray and you will see his spirit change. Then you can pray with him.

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Love one another, for that is pure, undefiled religion.

Don

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Are you saying he abuses her daughter all the time? Seriously?! Why are they letting that happen? He's not even 10! Were that my daughter, there would not have been a second incident.

Its really sad though, when divorced parents hold their petty differences above the welfare of the child. That seems what the biological mother is more interested in.

The solution is simply that this boy needs disapline(dont think i spelt that right), and he needs it in a big way. Yes, itll be extremely tough, because he's had none for so long. But its either whip him into shape, or just sit back and watch it snowball.

Theophilus

Treshay,

Tell your freind this.
Her and her husband are to sit down with that young man and tell him straight up that if he doesn't behave properly they will take him back to his mother and will not be allowed to come back until herepect and behaves properly. and when he first mis-behaves(no matter what it is) immediatlyy take him to his mother and tell him that when he is willing to behave properly to let them know. Until he doesand personaly makes that commitment to do so, do not bring him into your home.
Repeat this as necesary until the young man either straightens up or doesn't visit.

If the father wants to see child during these times let him do so but away from the house and for short repetive visits and no special occasions

At ten years old the child (unless he has a medical mental issue )is old enough to control and take responcibility for his actions.

At no time should this young man be alone with the younger girl. That is her home and she diserves to be safe and secure in it. over and above what the boy or any adult wants.
Chances are that if this boy is not diciplined and corrected before purberty that his behaviour will become worse and even more dangerous for the little girl and your freind as well.

Sincerely His
Cliff