Judging Others~

violet · 07-30-2007, 02:50 PM

My brother told me a true story a few years ago.
I'll remember it as best I can.
There was a man on a city bus with his three children.
The children whined, cried, yelled and even ran around.
The father just stared at them or out the window.
He never said a word and the other passengers were irritated and mad, even making angry remarks, out loud~
The man never responded or corrected his children.
Finally, one individual walked up to him and told him off and rudely asked why he was not disciplining his horribly behaved children.

The man blankly and meekly answered him.
He said he was very sorry but that his children were tired, hungry and upset.
He said they had been at the hospital all day without eating.
"My wife died today", he said.

This story has stuck with me for over 10 years and I will never forget it.
It made such a difference in my life in how I view others.
We just never know what a person's situation is.
I personally have been falsely accused and judged and it hurts.

It's a good story to hold close to the heart, especially as a Christian.

violet · 07-30-2007, 03:54 PM

Bump!

lostandfound · 07-30-2007, 04:12 PM

I think you're right, It's hard to do it in your own life. (Well I find it hard), but you're totally right.

violet · 07-30-2007, 04:14 PM

It takes practice.
We are an impatient society.
Patience and understanding is learned behavior, something we should all think about~
Blessings to you, LandF

adoptivemommy · 07-30-2007, 06:21 PM

This is pretty amazing! There is a song on the Christian radio station I listen to, I don't know the title but it starts with a story just like this except there is a woman that does not correct her 3 loud children and confronted she remarks that her husband died the night before and the children are just hungry tired and upset. The song goes on about an old man who holds up traffic with his slow driving and when an angry person yells at him through the window at a stop light he just says he is old and sick and it's just hard to drive anymore but his children have forgotten him and he has to get around on his own. The last block of lyrics talks about a man who is hanging on the cross and the people down and next to him are yelling at him and mocking him! It is an awesome song and the first time I heard it I was in my car and I almost had to pull over, I was crying so hard! Every time I hear this song I cry and it has made me think a little before I react anymore!

Laura

violet · 07-30-2007, 06:30 PM

I would love to hear that song!
Do you know who sings it?

Shannon · 07-30-2007, 06:34 PM

What a beautiful (and heartbreaking) lesson for us all. I know judging people is something I have to work on. It's very hard for me not to go on my first impressions of people!

violet · 07-30-2007, 06:42 PM

it's true, I understand.
It helps hearing such stories though~

adoptivemommy · 07-30-2007, 06:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by violet

I would love to hear that song!
Do you know who sings it?

No clue, unfortunately!

Sorry!

Laura

violet · 08-04-2007, 03:04 PM

I am hoping everyone will read this.
We all need reminded that we are NOT aware of everyone's individual circumstances!

There are many obstacles people face that are hidden from our view or knowledge of.
There are people suffering from losses, depression, other serious illnesses, marital problems, disorders, stressful pressures of life......many things that are not visible to us.

Never should we judge why a person may be slow, edgy, unattentive, scatterbrained, sad, distant, and so on and so on.
We just don't know what people are dealing with in their lives!
I want this story to be meaningful and helpful in all our lives!
Blessings,

07-30-2007, 02:50 PM	#1 (permalink)
violet Senior Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: England Posts: 8,128 Blog Entries: 13 Rep Power: 10	Judging Others~ My brother told me a true story a few years ago. I'll remember it as best I can. There was a man on a city bus with his three children. The children whined, cried, yelled and even ran around. The father just stared at them or out the window. He never said a word and the other passengers were irritated and mad, even making angry remarks, out loud~ The man never responded or corrected his children. Finally, one individual walked up to him and told him off and rudely asked why he was not disciplining his horribly behaved children. The man blankly and meekly answered him. He said he was very sorry but that his children were tired, hungry and upset. He said they had been at the hospital all day without eating. "My wife died today", he said. This story has stuck with me for over 10 years and I will never forget it. It made such a difference in my life in how I view others. We just never know what a person's situation is. I personally have been falsely accused and judged and it hurts. It's a good story to hold close to the heart, especially as a Christian. __________________ Violet http://just1lily.blogspot.com/ http://www.godlinked.com/profile/16qocogqqaf93 Matthew 10:38 ....he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me.

07-30-2007, 03:54 PM	#2 (permalink)
violet Senior Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: England Posts: 8,128 Blog Entries: 13 Rep Power: 10	Bump! __________________ Violet http://just1lily.blogspot.com/ http://www.godlinked.com/profile/16qocogqqaf93 Matthew 10:38 ....he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me.

07-30-2007, 04:12 PM	#3 (permalink)
lostandfound Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Barneveld Posts: 105 Rep Power: 1	I think you're right, It's hard to do it in your own life. (Well I find it hard), but you're totally right. __________________ God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away (and I'm green again) Wisdom isn't hard to get, just use the right knowledge on the right time in the right way.

07-30-2007, 04:14 PM	#4 (permalink)
violet Senior Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: England Posts: 8,128 Blog Entries: 13 Rep Power: 10	It takes practice. We are an impatient society. Patience and understanding is learned behavior, something we should all think about~ Blessings to you, LandF __________________ Violet http://just1lily.blogspot.com/ http://www.godlinked.com/profile/16qocogqqaf93 Matthew 10:38 ....he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me.

07-30-2007, 06:21 PM	#5 (permalink)
adoptivemommy Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: bedford, texas Posts: 668 Rep Power: 2	This is pretty amazing! There is a song on the Christian radio station I listen to, I don't know the title but it starts with a story just like this except there is a woman that does not correct her 3 loud children and confronted she remarks that her husband died the night before and the children are just hungry tired and upset. The song goes on about an old man who holds up traffic with his slow driving and when an angry person yells at him through the window at a stop light he just says he is old and sick and it's just hard to drive anymore but his children have forgotten him and he has to get around on his own. The last block of lyrics talks about a man who is hanging on the cross and the people down and next to him are yelling at him and mocking him! It is an awesome song and the first time I heard it I was in my car and I almost had to pull over, I was crying so hard! Every time I hear this song I cry and it has made me think a little before I react anymore! Laura __________________ Forgiveness is *His Signature*!

07-30-2007, 06:30 PM	#6 (permalink)
violet Senior Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: England Posts: 8,128 Blog Entries: 13 Rep Power: 10	I would love to hear that song! Do you know who sings it? __________________ Violet http://just1lily.blogspot.com/ http://www.godlinked.com/profile/16qocogqqaf93 Matthew 10:38 ....he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me.

07-30-2007, 06:34 PM	#7 (permalink)
Shannon Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Northeast Iowa Posts: 481 Rep Power: 1	What a beautiful (and heartbreaking) lesson for us all. I know judging people is something I have to work on. It's very hard for me not to go on my first impressions of people! __________________ I can do everything through Him who gives me strength! Philippians 4:13 There are four things that are too mysterious for me to understand: an eagle flying in the sky, a snake moving on a rock, a ship finding its way over the sea and a man and woman falling in love. Proverbs 30:18-19

07-30-2007, 06:42 PM	#8 (permalink)
violet Senior Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: England Posts: 8,128 Blog Entries: 13 Rep Power: 10	it's true, I understand. It helps hearing such stories though~ __________________ Violet http://just1lily.blogspot.com/ http://www.godlinked.com/profile/16qocogqqaf93 Matthew 10:38 ....he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me.

08-04-2007, 03:04 PM	#10 (permalink)
violet Senior Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: England Posts: 8,128 Blog Entries: 13 Rep Power: 10	I am hoping everyone will read this. We all need reminded that we are NOT aware of everyone's individual circumstances! There are many obstacles people face that are hidden from our view or knowledge of. There are people suffering from losses, depression, other serious illnesses, marital problems, disorders, stressful pressures of life......many things that are not visible to us. Never should we judge why a person may be slow, edgy, unattentive, scatterbrained, sad, distant, and so on and so on. We just don't know what people are dealing with in their lives! I want this story to be meaningful and helpful in all our lives! Blessings, __________________ Violet http://just1lily.blogspot.com/ http://www.godlinked.com/profile/16qocogqqaf93 Matthew 10:38 ....he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me.

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