Boanerges

Amen Ginger. God is moving in your situation and will be glorified in it through you. Keeping the right heart is still the key. If we draw close to the Masters heart we can see these people with His eyes and genuine forgiveness and compassion will rise up. This is true freedom and unforgiveness is a terrible burden and will eventually end up in bitterness. I have been through some things in life that I thought no man should have to endure and yet by choosing to forgive a terrible situation was changed and God who alone is worthy was glorified. Did it hurt- yes ever so deeply. But when I think of the things I put my Lord through I realized that true love (from heaven) is indeed the most powerful force we will ever encounter. I am not worthy of His love and yet He loves me so. All He asks of me is to love like He does.
I hope I am not rambling here- I am glad to see things beginning to change even if it is slowly at first. You are certainly still in my prayers.
Much love and many blessings in His Name, your brother Larry.

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Because the Lord Jesus died on the Cross, I have received forgiveness of sins; because the Lord Jesus rose from the dead, I have received new life; because the Lord Jesus has been exalted to the right hand of the Father, I have received the outpoured Spirit. All is because of Him; nothing is because of me."
Watchman Nee

Whirlwind

Grrrrrrr!

Your husband had an affair? Well then...have one of your own!

Pour your everything into Christ Jesus. Surround yourself with Him. The bible, movies, music, television, books, etc. Love our Savior with everything you have. Put Him number one in your life. Make your husband second, his proper place.

With God on your side, you have nothing whatsoever to fear at all. The Light of Truth can't be hidden by lies and deceit, Sister. You'll shine forth with Christ Jesus fighting the battle for you.

Have an affair - make Christ number One.

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Jesus is the Living Word.

Ginger

lol

Great advice. Jesus and I have been carrying on for quite sometime and He has never let me down. In these times of trouble he showers me with wonderful gifts reminding me how much I have to be happy about.

I finally feel I have some clarity on what I am supposed to do. One at a time, I am going to reach out to each person who has hurt me. Explain why I was hurt by their actions/words, forgive them and apologize for whatever hurt I have caused them. And pray with them.

I appreciate your continued prayers as I work thru all of this.

butterfly37

Hi Ginger,

I was in a very similiar situation myself & believe that GOD sees ALL, KNOWS ALL, and CORRECTS ALL.... I felt betrayed by my fiance' & the other women but mostly the church and all that were involved. But I just chose to do what Jesus said, to forgive & cast all my cares, hurts, worries & pain on Him and He totally VINDICATED the whole thing... I think it makes you a better person to just leave it in God's hands & watch what he does.... For me the other woman left the church because she didn't waste time to try it again and the LIGHT ALWAYS EXPOSES the darkness

Ginger

It looks like there will be some sort of resolution to this issue.

I have prayed so long and hard that I should do what is right.

I sent the letter to SPPRC expecting that it could end up causing me more pain, but I felt I had to do it in order to leave the church with a clear conscience.

Almost immediately I received a very nasty email from someone on SPPRC. Apparently Sarah has been saying things about me to influence others in the church just as I had suspected. Of course I cried for awhile because it was hurtful. But I still felt I had done the right thing.

Generally speaking, SPPRC is very confidential in the way things are handled. So the only info I will get is the call this morning telling me that a subcommittee has been chosen to speak with this woman and her husband.

For me that is closure regardless of whether she ever admits or apologizes.

I still feel I have to leave the church, which is unfortunate, but my issues with this church go far beyond this one situation. My church life changed drastically after our current pastor started.

Despite all the pain this situation has caused me, I feel God has been very good to me. He has given me everything I have asked for. Even in this situation I prayed three specific prayers - 4 if you count SPPRC talking with Sarah - all were answered as I had asked them.

It doesn't change what has happened, but it is comforting to know how much God loves us - that He is in control even when we are going thru bad times.

Thank you all for your prayers. There were times when I had difficulty knowing what to pray for and you helped to fill that space.

Ginger

Whirlwind

Praying for you, my Sister in Christ!

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Chapter-by-Chapter, verse-by-verse.
Jesus is the Living Word.

Boanerges

You will remain in our prayers.

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Because the Lord Jesus died on the Cross, I have received forgiveness of sins; because the Lord Jesus rose from the dead, I have received new life; because the Lord Jesus has been exalted to the right hand of the Father, I have received the outpoured Spirit. All is because of Him; nothing is because of me."
Watchman Nee

NearertoGod

Ginger, as I read this, I am terribly sorry what you have to go through.

Me and my mother have had similar experiences...and I'd say more but I'm not.

The only thing is that you should continue praying. Every church has its own faults, whether it be someone doing such-and-such, or the latter. I don't think there's any church without some kind of little stirring in it.

I hope that you're feeling much better.

Please know we at CFS are here for you whenever you need it.

You are in our thoughts and prayers.

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Happy - a best friend taken to soon
Your are more than a dog, a pet, you are a best friend
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"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear ... "
1 John 4:18

Ginger

Thank you. But I really have to leave this church. I agreed to stay til Sunday school was out and nothing has changed - so I am leaving.

This situation goes far beyond anything imaginable. If I told you the whole story I'm sure no one would believe me. It's like something out of a soap opera.

I can expect no apologies from the Christians who have hurt me. They all seem to feel justified.

This is not to say the whole church is like this. Most of them love me and think very highly of me. But the higher archy - the ones who are aware of my situation - have behaved (IMO) horrendously. It's a handful of people, but they run the church

I cannot be there and focus my attention on God, so there is no point in staying.

I have done everything I can to repair and make peace. My conscience is clear. But part of forgiveness is letting go. I cannot do that and stay at this church.

Thanks again for all the support and prayers.

Ginger

NearertoGod

Ginger

I agree completely. Why would you sit up in that mess?
If I told you the things that happened to me, it probably sounds like I made it all up while watching Days of our Lives. I understand totally what its like to realize what people are like really on the inside.

I have met a number of people who call themselves "Christian", and do things like you've described. It's annoying, but I've had so many people treat me badly I'm used to it.

I really do hope you find some other place. Even if it's not well-known or all those other things...

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*In Loving Memory*
Happy - a best friend taken to soon
Your are more than a dog, a pet, you are a best friend
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WITH GOD NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE


"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear ... "
1 John 4:18