IHeartLarrytheCucumber

Thanks guys. If there was anyway to confront her in a Godly way, what should I do? Or maybe I should confront the pastor?

I do try my hardest not to say something to her that I don't want to say, and so far I've succeeded. But that's part of the reason I made this thread. I don't want that to happen.

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IHeartLarrytheCucumber

PS Banarenth I love Friends and Joey is my favorite. And Ross. And Chandler. Actually I'm pretty sure I just love the guys on that show haha.

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BreathOfGod

In an ideal group setting, there is a really good facilitator who is able to bring the conversations back to the topic at hand. It sounds as though your group doesn't have a good facilitator, and this girl is being allowed to manipulate all the conversations. I am guessing that no one there knows how to steer things back to the topic and others may also be afraid of hurting the girl by saying anything. Maybe you could use this as a learning tool on how to be more assertive and a good facilitator. Even though you are not the facilitator, you could learn to look for ways to bring the conversation back to the topic when the girl starts into talking about herself. After she says something, you might be like, "That is a really good point, I can see where it applies to what we are studying in this way........." and then talk about what is being studied at the Bible study. I can promise you that doing this will not be easy. It takes a lot of practice to learn how to do it. Also, half of what she says may just be a goat path and may not have anything whatsoever to do with the topic of study. That is where you have to get creative, or maybe ask her a question about it that would draw it back to the topic. I wish you all the best in this situation.

Boanerges

Good advice!

Beloved

I agree with Bookworm... We have a male in our group, that detours the 2 hour teaching all the time... with me me me topics...most have nothing to do with the teaching... I will have to speak to my Pastor... who is a mushy love bear type...

I don't agree with sand paper theory, though I still love you Larry

I once taught a Bible study and every week it seemed we had a new person that did nothing more than try to spent the entire hour on herself, nothing relating to the study... I suggest that after the 1 hour study we'd socialize, but that never worked, they were deaf...

If it wasn't that it was someones dis-proval of the Bible version someone was reading.

IT WAS ALWAYS SOMEONE NEW WITH SOMETHING NEW TO DIS-RUPT THE STUDY... Finally everyone decided to drive into town and spent the day gambling, like every other day...

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( SHALOM says: Completeness, wholeness, health, peace, welfare, safety soundness, tranquility, prosperity, perfectness, fullness, rest, harmony, the absence of agitation or discord. )

Beloved
1 Corinthians 14:1 Let Love be your highest goal.

Banarenth

While I seem to be stuck on the reruns, I was never much into the show before, just couldn't resist the "There's a GIRL on the Interwebs" syndrome. n_n I'd say that either I'm too old for you or you're too young for me, but then I realize if I actually start dating girls at my own maturity level, the men in blue will eventually put me in a very sad place. XD

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Boanerges

Perhaps you haven't been sanded yet!!!LOL!
Either way I love you too!

Humble_Servant

It can be easy for us to base how we relate to people based on how they make us feel. I think the best thing we can do for anyone is to relate to them by how they feel about themselves. It seems this girl is screaming out as loud as she can for help without even knowing it. I used to be annoyed with these types of people as well. You just have to realize that people act like this for a reason. What's going on in this girl's life? She probably puts the attention on herself all the time because she actually needs attention. Alot of times good friends who are willing to just listen is just what someone needs to deal with life, and maybe be a bit less.... troublesome.

Once you understand someone, it becomes much harder to be annoyed with them.

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CSchultz

That's funny!

I guess the "Larry" threw me. I'm a big veggie tales fan too.

You know, one thing I love about forums, gender, race, nationality, they all take a back seat.

The way things ought to be.

The Proph

Couldnt agree more! *Overly Emotional* Its So BEAUTIFUL!. *Gives everyone a big hug* :P