Faithwoman

Good evening,

I am in a dating relationship with a Christian man. The spiritual aspect of our relationship has been great. This is the first man I have ever been with that is equally yoked. Being in a relationship with him, has brought me to such a deeper level in my own faith.

I am 45 and his is 50 never been married. The part that I am frustrated with is he has some serious financial issues and other things going on in his life right now. We do pray about everything and ask for the Lord's guidance in all of it.

Through his growing up, he was in alot of Bible studies. When we talk on the phone and I start sharing about something I read, he says oh yes it is in the book of Daniel, or book of Geneis.. or this is what the bibilical view is of all of that.. which is so amazing to me.

However with all he is facing right now, and he really wants the Lord to show him his path, I encourage him to be in the Word, we have heard several messages at church lately about being in the Word, yet he does not take the time to do it..

I have learned so much lately and I know when I pick up the Word it speaks to me so clearly.

So do I just not say anything anymore? I do pray for the Lord to touch his heart and soul and that somehow he will pick the Bible up.

Why do you think it is he does not? I know we are not mind readers.
Any ideas on this and encouraging advice?

Thanks
Faithwoman

SweetSurrender

Yeh, I know someone who is like that. She works where I work and she seems like she knows everything there is to know about scripture also. Yet she never reads the Bible. Sometimes I think it's because she thinks she has finally "arrived." But, I'm like you, learning everyday. Of course I haven't grown up in church, but I hope I never get that confident to become like her.

I would pray for your friend because that is one thing a man cannot fight against - the power of God's love through the concern of a praying woman. It's the only thing that will work. Good luck and be careful.

violet

SweetSurrender

Just remembered. My husband's daughter just discovered why her husband of 5 yrs. never wanted to read with her or to her. He can't read. Somehow, if these people knew how smart they were to get as far as they got, they could probably learn to read if they really wanted to, and not be ashamed to ask for help. Hope that is not your case.

Jax

Could you share with him any understanding you have about stewardship or financial Godly principles?
Giving regularly to God, sowing in faith etc?
It just suprises me how many Christians seem to not have much understanding of God's way of handling money (not saying you)

Whirlwind

When we're hungry or thirsty, God can put a big ole dripping cheesburger and a tall mug of root beer in front of us at the table.

But it's up to us to pick it up and eat/drink.

He gave us free will and the decision to either take his gift (His precious cheeseburger) or go hungry.

We're big boys. He's not going to spoon-feed us anymore, hee hee.

Same thing here. We can pray for answers, and he can give us a bible. But it's up to us to open His Word and to read the answers.

You got a dollar-tree store around you? They sell chapters of the bible on CD. Go and buy one. Listen to it loud.

You can also download chapters from godsipod.com. Tell him you're seeking your own answers, and he's welcome to join you in a listening session to seek his own.



God bless you!

Faithwoman

Thanks for all your replies.

He is very capable of reading.. does not have that problem.

He is the one who has helped me to grow my faith.

He knows all the biblical principles of tithing, being faithful, sin.. you name it he knows it.. but unfortuantely for whatever reason chooses to not seek out the Word.

We do pray together when we are together and via phone as we live 2 hrs away from each other. We have devotions when we are together.

What I realized today, is I will continue to pray for him.. but can you see what is happening here.. the time I take to worry and obsess over that is time I should be spending with God strengthening my path..

I know God wants me to be in a relationship where both partners love God first.. where there is complete honesty and trust and that both partners want a God filled life.. so I shall seek to clean myself up.. and love God first.. and as I do that.. God will keep on showing me.. I know God sure does not want me with somone who only picks up the Word in case of Emergency.. can you imagine if God did that to us? When we say we were running late, we were to tired to have devotion.. sorry God.. just imagine if God said to me.. sorry Faithwoman.. I was late today so I could not be there to give you the strength to get through your day! No.. God always has time for us.. we need to do the same.

Ok.. done venting.. thanks!

Faithwoman

Boanerges

I would suggest that when you do get togeather you ask him to read scripture with you, this may reignite his interest. And of course above all pray for him!

freedom07

With all due respect to your friend he may think he knows all he needs to knows about the Bible and there is nothing more he can get from it (EGO).
Even Satan can quote the Bible, (Not calling your friend satan) but this does not mean he has a close relationship with Yeshua (Jesus). Suggest to him since he knows God's Word so well that maybe you two could sit down some night and maybe he could conduct a small Bible Study between you and him, which consists you both reading from the Bible.
If this does not happen and before this relationship gets to involved I would come right out and ask him if he is willing or why he is not willing to read the Bible with you.
Praying for both of you.

__________________
Romans 6:4
4 Therefore we were buried with Him through baptism into death, that just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life.

Jax

Faithwoman, you are a wise woman too!
You know deep down what you need to say/do.
God bless