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Originally Posted by YelowJacket
You people need to count your blessings. To have a great spouse is one of the greatest blessings you can have. I should know because I don't. I have a spouse with OCPD, not OCD. I have accepted that this may be my cross to bear.
My spouse is controling, painfully detailed, self rightous, can do no wrong, yet finds errors in everything I do. This isn't an exaduration. There are so many double standards I could never list them all.
My spouse is Christian but with any message we listen to or they listen to they will see how the message was speaking directly to me and my many, many, faults.
So count your blessings
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First off... maybe God have mercy on you.
OCPD... perhaps it's not merely the way she is? Perhaps it is her *imperfection* that needs corrected, and she hasn't spent enough time correcting it?
My wife has OCD... and I can see some tendencies in OCPD... perhaps not to the degree that your wife has. She loves me though, and we consider it...
Someone says, "I was born gay." Even if that were true. Even if you WERE born with a propencity to be drawn into a homosexual lifestyle... that simply means that is your sin you have to fight.
Someone may say, "I can't stop lying." Yes you can, and there may be something physical within you that has given you a propencity to lie... even so, it's not an excuse. It's just the sin you are going to have to fight.
We are always pointing to our "condition" and saying, "That's just the way I am." But, isn't God perfecting us? Are we not supposed to conform ourselves to the mind of Christ? It would not need to be so unless our minds were not conformed, and our personalities imperfect.
I've talked to my wife, and she does feel guilty sometimes about her OCD tendencies, and I've explained that she probably does have diagnosable OCD... that just means that THAT is her sin she will need to fight. OCD is not who she is. Life as a Christian is a walk towards perfection, and nobody is meant to stay where they are.
If your wife has OCPD, that's not always an excuse, especially for a Chrsitian. Maybe talk to her about that (I'm sure you have) and go to her with on of YOUR SINS, and confess them. I don't know what your relationship is like... but if there is any way you can explain to her that "This is not JUST 'the way you are,'"
I imagine, if we look deeply enough into our genetic code, we will find many tendencies to sin. Didn't God say that we have a sin nature? Hasn't God noticed this sin nature in us? Of course He has, but we aren't to excuse it as our nature. We identify it, and we struggle and strive to be perfect, just as our father in heaven is perfect.