Originally Posted by Ginger

Recently, my husband had an emotional affair with a woman in church. I believe it started innocently enough and ended before it became sexual.

I wasn't upset at first as I thought he was trying to be helpful and I felt compassion for her. He told me about it because his feelings had become confused. I told him that I thought he needed time to get his emotions in line again and the best way to do that is to end all contact with her for at least two weeks.

To make a long story short, she somehow turned the whole situation around and painted me as a villian and herself as my victim. She has maintained that she did nothing wrong and that it is all in my insecure head. She even went so far as to claim she saved my marriage and hopes God will use her in this way again.

My pastor and the handful of people who have heard all sides from all parties involved agree the relationship was inappropriate, but seem unwilling to say anything. This has caused her to gloat, thinking she has everyone believing her. Her words and actions since the relationship ended have been extremely hurtful to me. Their answer is do nothing. "God will take care of it." My answer is Galatians 6:1.

I am hurt that they would allow the lies she has told against me stand. My hurt provokes me to anger at those seem more worried about her feelings than her soul.

I don't know how to let go of the hurt and anger I feel toward my church family. I feel like the only way I can let this go is to leave my church of thirteen years and find a new place to worship.