Originally Posted by slavetoChrist

there are accountability programs that record your internet activities and send them to someone else. Something like that might be what both of you need; rather than arguing about it.

You need it to learn to trust... and it would give you greater confidence that he is not looking at it.

He may need it because porn is something that never goes away and the temptation is always so close.

I also would caution you not to take too much stock in porn. I, when I was an atheist, was an avid porn enthusiast. Yes, God has cleansed my heart and mind, but I am still susceptible and have a propensity for it. Most men do. However, men like me and your soon-to-be, if we are tempted or fall, is not because we do not love you, recognize your beauty, or know you are more than good enough for us. It is merely a weakness.

men notice. it's not something we can change.