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Who am I · 03-29-2008, 04:18 AM

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Originally Posted by violet

Bonnie, oh my heavens, I feel so bad for your husband.

I am glad he has been blessed with a wife such as you.

I have talked to my Dr. about meds and he put me on antidepressants which do nothing for me.
I do take meds for panic attacks. I pray that I will overcome all this and have to take nothing but my thyroid medicine.
The problem, as you know, is that I am going through a divorce now and I believe my ADD is what destroyed my marriage.
I have been a burden on my entire family and I know I have, I don't blame them for being angry with me.

I have let them all down.

I hope I don’t sound too harsh, but you need to stop thinking like that. It isn’t your fault you have ADD.
I was engaged to be married quite a few years ago. I had two operations for cancer and went through a whole summer of chemotherapy. Right towards the end, my ex fiancé told me she didn’t love me anymore. I just don’t think she wanted to deal with my cancer and the fact that I was tested as being sterile. (it was testicular cancer) It wasn’t my fault, and your having ADD isn’t your fault.

I don’t much care for the “burden” idea either. I think our modern day society puts too much emphasis on who is a “burden”. If more people would take a little time helping others, no one person would ever have to do very much. It’s all about sacrifice. If everyone would sacrifice a little bit, everyone would be better off. And as far as a marriage is concerned. Husbands are suppose to love their wives as Christ loves the Church. And what did Christ do for the Church? He died for the Church. To me… it’s all about sacrifice. I don’t think He was happy when He did it. He even asked His Father to let the cup pass from His hands if it is possible. He knew it wasn’t going to be easy, but He did it anyway. He sacrificed everything for His bride. If a husband is suppose to love his wife like Christ loves the Church, why shouldn’t a husband sacrifice everything if necessary?

Anyway, don’t beat yourself up. It’s not your fault.
And remember, you will always be a part of the bride of Christ and He will always be at your side. He will never leave you nor forsake you. He’s right there with you now… ask Him to hold you… He’ll be more than happy to do that.

May God bless you more than anyone.
Dean