Violet - this pretty much sums up why I'm not married today.
My ex-wife was very controlling.
A controlling woman scares ME!!!
She had to have the final say with everything. It didn't start out this way, but this was what it turned into very quickly.
She also had a child before we were married (not mine). After two years of marriage, my ex-wife turned to me one day and out of the blue told me: "Don't ever try to make me decide between you and her, because she'll win."
So, you sure were put in your place, aye?
Wait a minute. I thought when we were married, we became one flesh? Things fell apart quickly after that. They rattled apart. I was 26, she was 42. I was her third husband.
After I divorced her, she married a 28 year old man. He died of a heart attack a year later.
Wonder of wonders?
Today she lives a single life in her mother's house with her daughter at her side.
Loneliness, as a result of having to be in control! I know someone like that!
I also know men who have taken advantage of the rules by which women should live. He used his wife as an uncompensated servant, a driven slave, a punching bag (mental and physical). When he was disciplined for it, he always quoted the bible. After his wife passed away, he went mad.
Yes, I know men like this too~ God expects us to use our wisdom and balance is so important in all roles too~
My point is: There are rules to be a good wife...yeah. But with those rules, men should realize that there are also rules to being a good husband.
Amen, WW!!! A wife isn't like a pet or a toy, she's an extension of you.
I like that! One in the same flesh. The rules Violet mentioned don't give men the right to treat women any way that they want to and get away with it.
Thank you, WW; I appreciate that very much coming from a man! All of God's creations should be treated with respect. Including women, the mothers.
Just wanted to add my two cents into the pot.
Women are tender, beautiful, delicate gifts to any life; as mothers, sisters, aunts, grandmothers, wives, girlfriends, friends, etc. They're built more delicately and should be handled with care.