Joe,
Let me speak from experience. When I look back at all my past dating experiences, I was what one would called the Top Snoop Dog queen.
It was a bad trait , a sin that I kept falling prey to. Through therapy and spiritual guidance what I have learned was I did not have trust. It was not so much the guys that I did not trust, it was the Lord that I did not trust.
I have just most recently come to this great revelation! Yes at the age of 45 soon to be 46. My Pastor shared with me to find scripture for dealing with all of this.
So it was
Proverbs 3:5-6 : Trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not on your own understanding, acknowledge him in all ways and he will make your paths straight.
I will agree with the others, it does not look good, nor sound good.
Communication is the key to any relationship, especially our relationship with God. For many things I found, I wanted to believe in my heart that it was Satan putting things there to fool me. I allowed myself to be in denial of so many things in relationships especially an alchohlic relationship I was in, in love with a man who loved a bottle more than me.
There has to be trust and honesty in a relationship. When two people do not have this, the relationship is not healthy. Does it hurt, to know someone may be on a different path in the relationship, than I.. you betcha ya. Is it easy to confront and talk openly with the one you love, No, is it possible yes.
God does not want us to live in confusion, distrust and all of the other crazy emotional things. God wants us to live in peace. Always remember we cannot change another person, we cannot heal another person, we cannot make them be like us, we cannot make them have faith like us, all we can do is to change our hearts. Only we can make sure our walk is Christ like.
Sex is a downfall of so many people. Believe you me, I know first hand. They do hand out condoms at some schools. They do give education about STD"s. But what is really hard, is so many schools and places are taking God out schools , so the message of abstinence and living God's way according to the bible is lost. Also, I would like to add, that Condoms may prevent one from becoming pregnant, but they will not protect one from contracting an STD, but Abstinence will.
It is important to realize that God does have a plan for us, all of us. We just need to look to him, be still and listen to what he is telling us. We need to trust God. We sometimes do not know why we did what we did.. ie.. you looking in the drawer. But I can tell you, pray, have faith in God, trust in him, seek your answers from him.
I will be praying for you and your girlfriend.
Faithwoman