Originally Posted by Tarantula

What if the one you get "emotionally involved" with is taken, they know how you feel and feel bad that they may have drawn you that way, you know they are in a relationship, and they seem to be generally a better person than your partner? I'm using this purely hypothetically, you can tell. Before you ask, she lives over an hour away (which is a lot in UK) and I've known her for five years. I think, when we started talking, I can't even remember how, but there was a spark between us. We put this down to merely getting on quite well (I'm not very good at socialising, so this was uncommon to me) and we had a lot in common. This eventually died down and we started talking as friends for the five years following. However, recently, reminiscing that I have gotten on better with her than any other girl I've ever known, I've started to almost miss liking her more than just as a friend. She's incredibly pretty, and I feel blessed that a loser like me could have a friend like her, but all these things have led me to do things I have never done before. That being: thinking of someone other than the girl I am with. That said, it is -very- hard not to indulge in the almost comfort it brings. I'm speaking from the sinner's end here. Most people here are the sufferers of perpetrators like me, and I hope I can offer a scope and insight into the kind of mind that falls for this easy sin.