In an ideal group setting, there is a really good facilitator who is able to bring the conversations back to the topic at hand. It sounds as though your group doesn't have a good facilitator, and this girl is being allowed to manipulate all the conversations. I am guessing that no one there knows how to steer things back to the topic and others may also be afraid of hurting the girl by saying anything. Maybe you could use this as a learning tool on how to be more assertive and a good facilitator. Even though you are not the facilitator, you could learn to look for ways to bring the conversation back to the topic when the girl starts into talking about herself. After she says something, you might be like, "That is a really good point, I can see where it applies to what we are studying in this way........." and then talk about what is being studied at the Bible study. I can promise you that doing this will not be easy. It takes a lot of practice to learn how to do it. Also, half of what she says may just be a goat path and may not have anything whatsoever to do with the topic of study. That is where you have to get creative, or maybe ask her a question about it that would draw it back to the topic. I wish you all the best in this situation.
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