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Who am I · 01-19-2008, 04:59 PM

Hello fight4christ
You have gotten some good advice so far. It’s good that you are asking for help in your decision making process, and that’s what it is, a process. A decision that is going to effect the rest of your life is not to be taken lightly. With your comment, “we don’t feel like we are supposed to wait”, don’t go by your “feelings.” You need to do what God wants you to do. The problem is that we don’t always know what God wants us to do. That’s why we need to seek out wise counsel. If you are asking anyone the question, “What do you think we should do?” change your wording and ask, “What do you think God would have us do?” and if anyone says, “I think you should…” You might not want to listen to closely. You want to find people who can say something like, “Well… let’s look at what God’s word has to say about this.” At least some of those people need to know both of you very well. And like someone else said, you need to pray alone, together and ask others to pray for answers.

And as far as your expenses… you didn’t list very much. There will be more. And don’t ever rule out the unexpected. Even with new vehicles, not everything is covered under warranty. You might want to look into a lease. I believe everything is covered there, but not positive. And if you are looking at buying used, the warranty isn’t much. There are a number of things that can go wrong that will add up to well over $1,000.00. One day your driving down the road, and the next day someone wants a ton of money to fix your car. And what if there is an accident? There is a deductible, unless you go with higher premiums. And renters insurance, doctor visit co pays, prescription co pays… And you can sit down and make a list of everything you think you will need, but there will always be something you didn’t think of.

The main thing you want to look at right now is… Does God want us to get married now, or wait? After you get that answer, you can start to work out the details. If you start working out the details now, you might start leaning toward the answer you “want” God to give you and you might miss the real answer. When two people are in love and want to get married, the flesh is always involved… “ALWAYS”

Other than that, you have a big decision to make. Don’t take it lightly and don’t be too hasty. Someone said that two years isn’t long compared to the rest of your life. It really isn’t. If you don’t get married now, two years from now you’ll look back and you’ll wonder where the time went. It will go by very fast if you are that busy with school.

Lean not on your own understanding, but in all your ways acknowledge Him.

Pro 1:7
The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction.

Pro 9:10
The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the holy is understanding.

Pro 12:15
The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel is wise.

Pro 19:20
Hear counsel, and receive instruction, that thou mayest be wise in thy latter end.

Pro 24:6
For by wise counsel thou shalt make thy war: and in multitude of counselors there is safety.