Don't worry that at 19 you haven't experienced love. Most 19's haven't even though they might think they have. I remember being 19 and crushing on guys, and while it's fun to imagine the whole love, marriage, baby carriage thing with a guy one is crushing on, it is usually a mistake to pursue it at 19. There are way too many 25 year old's who have little kids and are divorced all because they thought they had met their life's mate at 19.
I emphasized usually, because there are those times when one does meet one's life mate at 19. If this is one of those things, then God will open all the doors and he will be just as eager to pursue you.
I really struggled with this one myself. I tend to be kind of a take charge sort of person, so I was always trying to pursue love and "make it happen". The result was that I went through a lot of Kleenex, as first this crush then that one moved on to someone else. Usually one of my friends. I've been a bridesmaid at more than one wedding in which the groom was a former crush of mind, (although by the time the wedding rolled around I was well and truly over the crush and nothing but happy for my friends.)
When God finally did bring the love of my life around, everything just fell into place. I had spent years second guessing and even obsessing whether "this one" was "The one". When God brought Steve into my life, there was no second guessing, no worrying, we just enjoyed our relationship as we moved from dating to engagement to marriage. We will be married for 10 years in February.
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