What was your reply to his dating question? I've been on both ends of this situation, and in my experience, there seem to only be two logical reasons for his actions that you have told us about.
The first would be that he is protecting himself.He at first wanted to get to know you and now he doesnt seem so interested,right? He was/is lying when he said the two of you were incompatible and has actually fallen for you to a point that has caught him off guard, and this either scares him or he feels it is too soon for such feelings so he has made an effort to shut those feelings down,or curb them. By limiting his exchanges with you common pleasentries, he is protecting himself from exposing himself or giving more of himself to you than he is ready to give right now. You two see each other a bit, and hemay feel the only way to avoid slipping up is to stand still. In other words, he can only avoid revealing his true emotions, by not expressing them at all.
The second is he is protecting you. He has been honest with you, possibly to the furthest extent that he knows how, and you are still telling him you have feelings for him? There's nothing wrong with that as you were being honest with him. Just don't remind him of this everytime you talk to him. He heard you. He doesn't want to lead you on by being as open and intimate with you, so he may feel that the only way to keep from giving you false hope, is to basically stop talking to you. The less opportunity there is for him to say something misleading to you, the less it will happen, and right now, you seem very open to misinterperting his actions, due to your hope for things to go back to the way they were. He may have asked you to work on his team, because you are the right person for the job,regardless of what has happened between you two. Or he may have just wanted to be nice and show you that he doesn't hate you, and hopes that you will see that things are different and you will begin to accept it and you two can still be friends.
You can ask him which one of these two explains his actions and he may or may not tell you the truth. He may just tell you what he feels will hurt you less or expose him less. Regardless, he has shown you the level of relationship he is comfortable with right now. Every time you push him beyond his comfort leve, you run the risk of putting a wall between you two. My advice would be to pray for God's guidence in the matter. Say nothing beyond friendly chit chat, unless God moves you to. Marriage is a gift from God, and when He is trusted to be the match maker, instead of ourselves, the result is better than we can ever imagine, or achive on our own.
Blessings,
-Steve
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