I've seen many cases where the pastor is the father, grandfather, or some other relative of various other members in the church. As a family both in Christ and in blood, it can be a great situation. It can also make everyone else feel like an outsider. Pray, and discuss it with your wife definitely.
I guess my question would be, if (when..there is always a when eventually) you and your wife have any problems with your relationship, who can you go to? It's very odd to bring it to your pastor who happens to be her father as well. Even personal councelling and growth in your own life. I do occassionally discuss minor things with my grandfather, but I find that because it's me, he gives me different advice than he might give another Christian. So I always go to my own pastor, or one of the decons. Do you have someone that you could take problems to and know it would stay out of the family?
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