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Originally Posted by freedfromdestruction
Hello steveh53,
this no different then if it were just a brother or sister who had wronged you. I suggest that if they want a real a relationship that you simply tell them how you feel. Not in a harsh tone, just the truth. Tell them of how you have felt to be violated and why. Be clear about how you feel. If they admit their wrong and ask forgivenss without excuses then there can be real healing and forgiveness. if not then I would suggest that you simply forgive them for your sake and move on without them.  |
Actualy it is very differant than with a brother or sister in or out of Christ. We are talking about the relationship between a father and his children.
Thats not like a freindship that is started and can be ended at will.
There are factors that must be concidered in relationship to the childrens behavour. The effect the divorce had on them. The mothers obviously using them to strike back at their father. The trama of loosing the security of both parents and a family.
In such cases any healing is better than none. In situations were the father either caused or initiated the divorce then I would expect that he would apologize before making the relationship contingient on their appology.
Any way we look at it love rules, not anger or pride. If it doesn't then all the apologies in the world won't save it.