"I am 22 years old. Moved back to parents a month ago. I am wondering what is the proper response to advice from a parent, when I think I am making a Christian choice, but my mom opposes. For example, I want to start a job. She thinks more than a hour drive is too far and advices not to take the job. What should I do in a sutuation like this?"
You have had a lot of really good advice.
We are to honor our parents always - and to submit to our parents when young. Honoring means not being cheeky to them or disrespectful to them, or neglectful of them in their old age.
I wonder why your Mom worries about the hour drive. I don't think its the economics which she is thinking of. She must think it's dangerous to drive so far each day. But if its a good job, with a future and good pay - it may be best for you to take it. At age 22 it is not dishonoring your parents to want to work.
Living at home is a complicating factor. As a parent, I love having my son live with us. I don't tell him what to do, and he has been working since age 18, while studying. He even worked abroad at about your age. It is not unreasonable to have to commute two hours a day.
Talk to your Mom. Find out specifically what is bothering her. If your heart is set on the job, try to persuade her nicely why it would be in your best interests to do so. I doubt many parents would then come with the line "While you are living under my roof... blah blah blah".
In conclusion - at your age, I really think you should be doing what you want to do. Always be kind and respectful to your parents. If they insist you cannot work an hour away - and the atmosphere gets strained and stays that way - then it may be time to move out.
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