I met my wife in college. Fortunately, we were both Christians. There were many fine sisters who married fine Christian gentlemen. For the most part, I saw little evidence that these women were unreasonable in their expectations respecting their mates. Most of these marriages (ALL that I know about) are still intact and healthy 20+ years later, though I'm sure any of them would tell you that there have been many adjustments in attitude and behavior along the way.
For me, my wife expressed disappointment in my failure to fulfill my role as spiritual leader of the home. And you know what? She was right. We have had plenty of rough times in our marriage, but we have both wanted to obey God and do right. This harmony of purpose is probably the only reason our union has survived.
When God gives us guidelines (whether in the form of laws, commands, suggestions, rules, principles, or whatever) He, in His infinite love and wisdom, gives them for our good. His purpose is not to restrict us, but to protect us. We get the "yeah, buts" and figure we know better, and suffer as a consequence.
I mean this post to be an encouragement, however, and not a lecture. Ladies, there are Godly men out there. Gentlemen, there are Godly women out there who are not overbearing. They are worth waiting for. Maturity plays a big role in making for healthy dating and marriage relationships. Young men, young ladies; my challenge to you is to focus on growing and maturing in Christ so that you will be a fit spouse, and will have discernment in your dating relationships. Submit your desires and will to God. You need not fear, His desire is for your relationships and marriage to be a blessing for both of you.
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