Oh boys, you are so great! Thank you for all your opinions! It really helped me a lot to live with my decision.
My first thought was just what DaveS wrote. I did the work so I should be mentioned first. But then, reflecting on it, I felt that this doesn't really sound like how God askes us to think: earthly reward doesn't count as much as pleasing Him. But still I had doubts: do I please God when I subdue myself? When I allow others to adorn themselves with my plumes? I wasn't sure about it, and together with the frustration I still had in me that made me feel really, really bad.
DaveS's fast answer helped me to get my chin up and get back my self-esteem. Thank you so much for this DaveS!
But somehow I didn't feel comfortable with emailing that colleague pushing me first (we work at different locations). Something held me back.
At home I finally decided to let him know that I would decide differently but would accept him putting his name first if he thinks that is reasonable. So let's wait for his decision.
You others, whose advice I read just before I sent out the email (I
had to check if someone else answered
):
thank you for supporting me in this decision. I now really feel good with it. If he sticks to his decision - fine by me, this is just one project of many to come, as you said. If he changes his mind - I would be glad.
In both cases I will thank God, for trying me. I already thank God for having me making such considerations. And I am so grateful for Him having led me to this wonderful place in cyberspace to meet such wonderful people!
Thank you all. I love you.
Chris