walkwithjesus08

Boanerges,

I agree that he needs to seek counsel from someone else, but he won't go. He does not realize how serious the problems are and always thinks that it is just "my female emotions" running away with me. He made a lot of promises to me when we got back together after the brief seperation and for a while things were looking up for us. Then he fell back into his old patterns of thinking again. Now when I mention the "broken promises" he just says, "Maybe I can't change, this is who I am." Marriage is about compromise and we all have to adjust some of our set ways for a happy home. I do not want him to change who he is, I just want him to modify the behavior that is causing some of the problems. I tell him this so much that I feel I am "beating a dead horse" so to speak. I feel like I have basically hung a banner up or a flashing sign telling him what is wrong, but he just doesn't want to put in the effort to fix it. I am still relying on the Lord who I know can heal all in his own time.