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Originally Posted by violet
Is it possible to be unfaithful in a marriage if one has never committed adultery? |
absolutly! Emotional infidelity is real and is usually the beginning of the physical. It begins when one person says something of a complaint about their spouce to a member of the oppisite sex. The person replies kindly and listens to them. Eventually the other person shares something about their wife or husband and it has begun. There are many variations on this, of course, but it usually happens to a close friend, or someone at work, or any place where they spend time together. They become closer and begin shareing things to each other, and thinking nothing is wrong with it, they are just friends. Keep in mind that thei mates will know nothing. It will continue for some tme and usually the woman,(because they are usually much more intune to emotions) begins to believe that this person "knows" them better, that understands them better, than their husband. They can share anything with this person! They begin to believe that they do not love their husband. He is the unkind, un feeling, uncapable of understanding them person. All the while their husband knows nothing! There are many christian web sites and secular web sites dealing with this form of cheating.
For a marriage to really succeed, there must not be this draining of intimacy out of the bonds of marriage. Remember this is not couseling, it is shareing intimate things with an outsider (even a christian friend). Marriages need intimacy, the complete shareing of each other with each other. Intimacy should not be drained away from the marriage.
As I said before, this cheating starts before physical cheating. Most women would NEVER have sex with someone that they are not emotionally connected to!
There are many marriages broken due to this, even though there was nothing physical that happened.