Rumely

The best practical advice I can offer is to first reiterate what others have said. You need to cut off all contact with your ex, he will only hinder your efforts at a healthy marriage.

Second, check out the site marriagebuilders.com. Willard F. (Bill) Harley has the most practical, sensible approach to marriage problems that I've ever run across. He has a number of books, which should be referenced on the site, which will be helpful as well. His approach cuts through a lot of mumbo jumbo and gets to the heart of the issues at hand.

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