I am so very sorry. I agree with with Bro. Larry. I don't want to hurt you but she wanted you out of the picture because of another man.
You could wait a life time.
In God's eyes, you have every right to divorce. I understand you don't want to but how long will you wait?
She is not working on your marriage, she is working on another man.
I have been through this and it lasted 6 years til I almost lost my mind.
I am sorry for the children but nothing can take your love away from THEM.
Don't waste any more days of your life.