Do you have links to the non-punative parenting websites? I was curious to read them so that I could understand more about what you mean.
In my home I use positive parenting techniques. I have had to spank my children so few times that I can count the number on less than 1 hand. I do believe in boundaries, discipline, guidance, etc. My children are a testament that positive parenting techniques work. Everywhere I take them I get compliments. The church nursery was complimenting my 21 month old just this past Sunday because he is such a big helper and will give the others toys to play with and cleans up their cups after snack time (takes the empty cups and throws them in the trash).
He is so adorable.
Anyhow, if anyone ever has questions for me about what techniques I use or my parenting philosophy just ask.