Bookworm,
I am sorry to hear about your bad experience. It sounds as if your teen years were not very good. However, I do not agree with allowing a teen to begin making decisions completely for herself. I believe they still need a parents guidance and discipline.
I do agree that the first conversations about it should not be when a boy has asked her out. I am having conversations about it now. I am also laying down the ground rules now. As long as my rules are reasonable and the rules have been explained, then any embarrassment will be caused by her attempting to break the rules.
I hope to train her so that she will make wise decisions when she is an older teen-ager, and I will let her make some mistakes. But, I will not let her make a blunder that could have huge consequences. If she makes those blunders, it will be after I have done my best to keep her from it.
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