YelowJacket

This may bother some people here but it is a question I must ask. I am in a marriage of 15 years to a Christian woman. However she is very controlling and dominant. It has almost ended our marriage several times and she has actually left once for about two weeks. This was due to my faults ( according to her ).

I have a buddy who was in a similar situation but his wife did leave and is now in another relationship. Since, I have observed that there are a lot of relationships in the church where women are overly controlling and have taken the scriptures to the limit in order to keep their husbands in submission. I get preached at over and over by my wife if I ever make a decision that is against her wants but in the whole families best interest. She bashes me for not being a good leader but only lets me lead down the road she chooses and the speed she chooses and stopping if and when she chooses. All based on the fact that A man should treat his wife like his own flesh...He should do things that she wants if he loves her.....Doing things she doesn't like is not showing that he loves her.

We have been to many marriage seminars and I continually get the old elbow in the side treatment when they are suggesting proper marital behavior. Yet if they say something where my wife is at fault it breezes over her head. If I bring it up she gets angry.

Is there a marriage councilor or seminar out there that has the strength to speak on the Biblical way a wife is to submitt to her husband. That will speak on the proper behavior of a Biblical wife. The way God wanted it to be???? Not women as a pet or slave etc. But proper Biblical harmonic living between Godly men and women. The God based woman's function in a great marriage. They don't seem to have trouble pointing a finger at men and their duties and the shame they should feel if they don't take up their responsibilities, and the havoc it can invoke on a marriage if they abuse them. Is there not shame for women if they henpeck their husband and bully him around based on "scripture"

Personally I believe that Satan is doing wonders in destroying Christian marriages by nudging women to try to overcome their husbands. Taking control of their men, using scripture out of context. He is capitalizing on the curse put on Eve after they ate the fruit ( God said that women would desire for there husband... to control him)

Sorry for my bitteness. I just see this a lot and the good husbands do as asked to avoid conflict, being unbiblical, having a wife leave, or just to avoid the hell inflicted on them if they don't do as told.