I wish that I knew the answer. I really do not know!!!!
Funny thing is that there is another discussion
Blind Date
about Blind Dates and steveh53 had a very good post. That reminded me of the 'mate in the sky' mentality that I had heard about growing up and heard that this was the way the majority of marriages came about where the mate falls out of the sky at church and I was taught that.... And they had the 'testimony' to 'back it up.......'
What an Idiot I used to be.......... A painful lesson learned.
Then you learn not to go out to find a wife because that's worldly and then when you do go out to try to find a wife, you get so nervous and tense that you are glad to get back home because you are fearing that God is about to slam you with the 'holy hammer' for 'doing wrong'.